I have come to understand that life is actually very simple when we understand some of the principles it operates on. I have welcomed some habits that have been helping me sail smoothly in life, and I’ve also discarded a lot of habits that I later discovered were weighing me down.
In this life, everyone has a battle they’re fighting, so we shouldn’t expect people to come through for us always, no matter how close we are to them. Yes, this mindset has changed me a lot and has helped me tackle life in a smoother way.
You know, back in the days, I had the habit of frowning at people I asked for help whenever they didn’t come through for me. I used to frown when people didn’t check on me when I had big issues. But things have changed a lot now, and my mind is always at peace because I’m not expectant; I’m not expecting anything from anyone.
Last week, I received a call from an uncle in the big city who is very well-to-do. When the calls first came in, I missed them, and my mind went far, thinking and hoping there weren’t any problems at all because we hadn’t talked for years. Normally, this is someone I ought to be bothering every now and then to help my life since he’s well-to-do.
When I called him back, I began with a little apology for not checking on him all this while, and his response melted my heart too—he’s on the same page as I am.
“No, no, no, there’s no problem. Everyone has one or two things they’re going through. In fact, I’m the one that should be apologising too because I ought to be reaching out…”
After his pleas, we bounced back to the casual way we used to talk, with light conversations that included all the endless questions he asked about my well-being, and we laughed over some of them when I threw in sarcastic answers.
This is how it is supposed to be. Everything shouldn’t be taken too seriously, with queries here and there and malice here and there towards people you asked for help who didn’t come through for you, or people who haven’t checked on you for a while.
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