Well, this is something that even I did not believe this would be an habit that will change my life, I wouldn't have believed If anyone had told me either. I would have just laugh it off, because, just as WhatsApp is to you that's how it is to me too. WhatsApp was just Whatsapp, nothing more, just mean to chat, post on your status, view others status if you feel like too and just go about your day. But somehow, posting on Whatsapp became one habit that changed my life, it became the one place where I've now learned to breathe again, to heal, advise, encourage, inspire and to also connect with people in ways even i never expected.
It wasn't as if I started big, nah. I would just wake up in the morning, write some things out on my draft, sometimes they include the various thoughts on my mind, other times they are just words of encouragement, some are even my own fears, and the various lessons life itself has taught me. And guess what, instead of keeping them in my draft, I'd just edit, tweak some places and post it on my status. There are times it's about me, other times about things I've come to see/notice in our world, about relationships, friendships and all.
I actually didn't start so people will notice me, it just became an habit, and along the line, people began to pay attention, there are time I even do anonymous, some share things with me, others just thank me and all. People I barely talk to would just slide in my DM and say things like, "This was timely."
"Thanks for today, Milly."
"This is of great help."
And many more, that was when I realized that it has gone beyond just posting, I was already creating a small, quiet space/place where people can find refuge and actually breathe again. And that was how it became a habit.
Every single day I would post, it wasn't as if I was perfect too, nah. And I wasn't even posting to impress anyone, I was just being me, real and raw. There are time it's just me reflecting, other times it's a little spiritual/biblical, other times it's just the normal social stuff, at times it's about healing, starting over, not giving up and the likes .
And this habit changed my life in ways even i wasn't expecting. First, it made me honest. Yes, for you to be able to really communicate to others, you have to first of all face your own truth. There are time I write and indirectly or directly, it points at me too.
Secondly, it made me consistent. Even on day's when I don't feel strong enough, I still write, I still showed up, I still post. Mind you it's not with fake motivation, it's not because I wanted to be seen, nah. But it has become a habit.
Also, it has helped connect me with people. Name it, those struggling silently, those facing one thing or the other and all. Funniest part is, it has been helping even myself a lot. Every post reminds me that I'm growing, that I've survived things that would have broken any other person, that I'm still learning and that I would definitely swim through life's deep waters.
This habit didn't bring fame my way, instead it gave me purpose. And for that I'm glad, it made me feel fulfilled. Each and every time someone commented, "thank you," under my post, or we talked and they said, *"thank you," I whisper that same word to my self too. "Thank you."
This small daily act of always showing up with words is that habit that changed my life, and as I conclude, I will love to drop one here as well.
Dear You💞 I hope you know your tongue as fragile, boneless as it is, it holds immense power to build, destroy, heal or even harm. It can utter words sweet as honey, the same way it can utter sharp ones that can crush, kill, and break. I'm telling you it's a two edged sword. So, instead of destroying it why not create,instead of demolishing/badmouthing with it,why not uplift someone, instead of killing hopes/dreams with it,why not bring to life and help with it. Careless utterance can shatter trust, thoughtless comments can bring conflict, and hurtful words leave lasting scars. Choose your words carefully. May your words not destroy,kill,shatter but shape,help and build destinies....
All pictures are mine.(Screenshots of my WhatsApp status)
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