My daughters were a little slow on the hormone development, so this came a bit later for me. My eldest was extreme. From that girl who always needed my attention and hugs to accusations of being the worst mother ever. She's 20 now and finally settled. I even got an apology of sorts and an explanation that it wouldn't have mattered if I'd been perfect, she would still have picked out the worst thing I might have said or done and used it against me. She was angry at the world, not just me.

My youngest is more like me and apart from the occasional mild sulk, her teen years haven't been turned on me. She's so over education, but gets it done. Her final years are getting her certificate of education via online schooling, so she has a teacher for that and I get to be in a support role. She realised one day that the being nagged about school work wasn't actually coming from me so much as her teacher and has taken more responsibility on herself for it now, instead of rebelling against me.