I am out for a walk with my girls. A conversation begins, wherein we each get to delegate a super power to one other. Something that really represents who we are as an individual. This idea comes from my middle daughter and she chooses to go first in giving us each our special powers.
My eldest, can communicate with animals,( she is pretty good at this already) and my youngest can control fire ( she's only 5, so I'm not so sure about this one, but I can completely understand why she choose fire for her.). So she is also given the power to communicate with wolfs and big cats as well. Me, well, now I have been given the power to make things grow, in nature that is.
I am pretty chuffed with my power and begin to name off the things I would help to grow. Then I am reminded that their is still one of us without a power, so my middle daughter, she is given, the power to control water.
This is just an example, of the type of conversations I have with my girls. Where we get to envision the best version of ourselves and of each other.
The Power Of Manifestation! The power to create our own reality.
We talk about the word control and how you really don't need to control anything, or indeed want to control anything. That instead, it's about embracing whatever power or gift comes your way. Finding ways to work in sync with it.
Control is such a heavy word, I find.
The same with ownership. I have this conversation a lot with my girls, especially when they wish to claim ownership over one of our animal companions. You can never own a living being, I tell them, they are not ours to own. The animals that live with us, are a part of the family and we are responsible for their well being, when we bring them into our home.
It's a big lesson, in just giving, without having any expectations.
Yesterday, as I was getting ready to leave with my girls, to celebrate a friend, on his birthday. I see my youngest come zooming down the terrace , on her pink toy motorbike. It goes as fast as her legs can carry her and she is making quite some speed coming down the slope.
She is having the time of her life, both legs off the ground as she free wheels down. Behind her, is our neighbour, who is friends with all my girls, especially my eldest as they are the same age. "She just beat me", he yells, as he follows behind on his bicycle.
She is pretty fearless, my youngest. She loves to hang out in trees and jump from big heights. I Love watching the excitement on her face, as she goes about her day, full of adventures.
I like to be close by, when she is jumping or climbing and I just watch her, sometimes giving advice if she asks for it. I can see how capable and confident she is. It's not always easy, watching our children do quite daring things. So for some it's easier to just not let them.
But we have to return to a time ,where we have more trust in our own capabilities. So that we can allow our children to hold onto theirs. To just let them try, let them be free to explore. To really discover what they are capable of. Instead, of our fear holding them back.
We have been raised to believe, that children are in need of our direction, that we have to teach them. But this, this really , disempowers them. We can support them and guide them, but we are not here to teach and control them. ( that word again!) They are more that capable of teaching themselves and discovering who they are, all by themselves.
Kids of today, are being bombarded with so much information, opinions, trends, so much stuff that is really trying to manipulate them and make them conform.
One of the greatest gifts we can give them, is the space and freedom to truly be themselves.
