It something generally known that, you don't have to rush into marriage. There should be a process you have to pass through. And the process where by, you will be in courtship for months so as to study each other.
It is something common in the present generation we are, to be anxious in getting married without even looking into what marriage entails. When you get married to your spouse, he/she will suddenly bring up strange ideas you were not use to during your courtship. That's more reason wedding(s) collapse, when both had soft foundation.
Good marital relationship is viewed and planned by those who really knows what they want in a relationship. But to my surprise it seems, in the wake of troubles and modern life phenomenon, things are turning upside down.
Around us today both church wedding and court, if fifteen(15) marriages are made to happen on one Saturday as the case maybe, believe me, in court on Monday, at least ten marriage might been dissolved in the court(s). Why? Because many are ignorant of what marriage is or many have no knowledge of what they are going in for, they are just doing it because colleagues does.
Many thought marriage is all about being copulate and that things will be automatically done without contributing or rubbing mind together. The answer is No, forget about gender inequality, when you are applying gender inequality in your marriage it might scatter and might not if both understand self. In the sense that it is generally believed that women are best suited as home keepers, and you as the husband want her to quit her job because she's a woman and you are to provide for the house and not her.
Well that's very right if she agrees with you, but remember woman also have mission in life that is beyond staying in the kitchen. Anyways both needs to agree on which way to go, so that your children will have parental care. Of cause that's the essence of understanding self during courtship.
It seems the way people view marriages today is quite different from that of olden days. For better we say, for worse we part is the current dictum but not like that in the beginning of the world. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed by both husband and wives and to stay together forever when things are good and otherwise.
The facts has to be said, for every successful marriage, it has to be from the two mates. Successful marriage doesn't only depend on getting a good mate but also in being a good companion. No matter how you prove one plus one, it will give two, and two persons cannot drive a car at the same time, that's impossible.
So in marriage, it is half plus half. Half plus half will give you one. But any marriage entered into with one plus one will have head coalition.
Understanding without rushing into marriage will help alot.