"Never be happy with what I do for you. What do you want me to do? You do not have time for me, do you always be so busy? "
Most of the relation, but not because of the lack of love, but the end result of not feeling the love of the couple. The relationship between two people is never the same. Day by day becomes bad and otherwise, it becomes better.
If a person has everything in this world but does not have the love of his loved ones, then that person is one of the worst sufferers of the world. There are many husbands who are married to each other for 20 years after the marriage, just as a roommate lives with each other. They can never feel love for each other. Relationship expert Dr. Chapman said, as we all have a major mother tongue, the language that we can understand and understand, we all have different primary profiling languages. In the language we love, we can feel the best. We all have an emotional profit tank inside. If we find love in our primary language, then the tank is filled with the most. And when our love is closed, gradually the profit tank becomes empty. From here on, there are many problems related to relations. So how can the dear ones be able to fill this profit tank? Today I'm going to share with you the Gary Chapman's book, The 5 love language.
For a year or two of the relationship, we are in a hurry. He might be perfect for me! And in this darkness, we do something for him that we might not really like to do. Dr. Chapman said this situation "In love state". But when the relationships are outdated, then we come out of the way of our perfect partner. Then our own loved ones continue to notice more than the fault. And on the other hand, he started becoming annoying with us every day. Because of that, we started to slow down many things from the beginning of the relationship that we used to do for him. Because of which the gain tank also remained empty, and the bonds continued to weaken in the end. To build a long-term strong relationship, we must understand that this is just a temporary situation in the "In love state" situation. When this situation expires, we have to make a decision to enter 'real love state', for which 3 things need to be remembered very much.
Unconditional love
We always have to make a decision that, as soon as Situation comes, I will never miss love.
Effort & Discipline
We do not need "effort" or "discipline" in love state. Then we are in a hurry. But these two things are very important in the real gain situation. It is necessary to feel loved by our own partner who understands them properly. For those who need a little more effort and discipline later.Focus on Growth & Development
We have to pay attention to how relationships can be made better. Because the bond between the real love state itself does not become a stranger itself, it has to make strings. The most needed for this is that love is the most loved language in her language, knowing that she is the primary beneficial language of her own.
Based on his 30 years of career experience, Dr. Chapman shares this Primary Proficiency Language in 5 sections. First of all, the language is "Words of Affirmation". "Hey wow! Today you have a lot of scrutinies. What's the matter! " How do you love me so much? Do not teach me a little. "The person's profound language" Words of Affirmation "makes him feel most loved when somebody gives some good support for his or her work. Listening to words like "I love you", listening to why love, listening to it These words awaken the feeling of most love in their minds.
Now you might say, "brother, I do not see anything good in him." It is never possible that there is no good thing for any human being. He does it at least at least a bath. If you do not have anything else, then you can love him. There are many people who do not have a daily brush. If you look with a little bit, you will see such a good thing.
"Well, I have to admit that there is a good thing, but I do not like talking about this gaunt again." So brother is very bad for you. Because if this is the primary gain language of your partner, then only this language can be filled with its profit tank. If your relationship is really important to you, then brother should learn, just a small skill. What is the loss of learning!
The second language is "Quality Time". "I do not have time for you." If your partner is always complaining, then his primary profit language may be "Quality Time". Which means he waits for you for a little while in the day. Where you will be complete with him, just think about it, talk to him or do any work together with him. Do not say that the two TVs to see the TV, I have to buy from tomorrow market? No, No Mobile, No TV, Zero Distortion. Only you and the two of them both have eyes in their eyes and only a few words to express their thoughts.
The Latin language is "Receiving Gifts".
"I do not have the money to buy anything for myself, how can I buy gifts for them?" Who said that you have to buy a gift? When you thought of giving your mother to the flowers from the garden after your childhood, how happy your mother was to get the flower from you! If this is the primary gain language of your partner, then try applying this technique to experiment. Gift them to any garden from every garden, from wherever they are, collect different kinds of flowers. And say, "It's a small gift for you from me." See how happy he is.
The fourth language is "Acts of Service".
"I will make tea for you today, you just say sugar more." The person whose gain language is this is most happy when his loved ones help him with any work. "Let me see today I do this for you". This means that when someone shares their responses with themselves before they say something of their responsibilities. For example, helping in household work, taking children to school. "Well, now I will have to decorate the dish" - Impossible! If this is your reactions after listening to these words, then I want to tell you a short story.
"One day at the time of dinner, Dr. Chapman's wife told him," Look at what the dirt has got on the windows. Doctor Chapman looked at the serious throat just saying "Hmm". And then again he got down and started eating his own food. The next morning when his wife got up and went to where he went, he saw Dr. Chapman trying to clean the windows there. Seeing this, his wife asked him, what are you doing? Doctor Chapman replied, no matter what, I was trying to give this little love! His wife was happy to hear this statement. And he said to Dr. Chapman, you know? You are the best husband in this world!
Now tell me, what do you want to wear?
The fifth language is "Physical Touch".
Neither brother, I am not talking about sexual needs. Remember when your father returned home from the office every day, and you ran away and tried to catch him by hand! Here's what the physical touches are talking about. Physical Touch is considered to be a powerful power gain language. It is so powerful, a little child who does not understand any language can also feel this language. Kisses, gestures, from these things she feels the love of love. It is like doing some magic to feel love for adults.
Just as the love profits in your primary language gets its most profitable tank, and if you get something negative from your primary profit language, then the person's profit tank becomes empty as soon as possible. Such as whose primary gain language "words of affirmation", insult him in words. Whose primary language is 'Physical Touch', hand for any reason. These things can cause serious harm to their relationship with them.
Now the question is, "How is it possible to know the primary beneficial language of a human being"? You have to be mind-fed for this. When the person is happy, tries to show love, then what language does he use the most? Because his language is the most preferred language, of which he is the most casual, he mostly tried to give love to another language in that language. If I love someone, the thing that I like most, I will try to give him more than that thing. So you know this way.
According to Dr. Chapman, a case is found in lakes where the benefits of two life partners are similar in language. But if you are getting a healthy, long-term, happy relationship then it is very necessary to give love to each other's primary profit language. Yes, but it's not just that only the primary gain language will love! The remaining four languages also need to be used occasionally. But it is important to use the most primary proficiency language. Because without it the profit tank will never be fully filled. Just as the feeling of love is one of the best feelings of this world, so does the feeling of not feeling love is one of the most painful feelings of this world. It is very important for all of us to know about "The 5 Love Language". And for this reason, I have a small request for you, share this post with your loved ones, and let them know about this '5 love language'. Because it is not just you, but they also love your language to learn your language and language. And we all can build a peaceful relationship.
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