What is the right age to get married? If you ask me, I would say at whatever age you find a loving partner with whom, you think, you can spend your life with, is the perfect time to get hitched. But, According to Indian parents the right age to get married his anywhere between 22 to 27.
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My dad wanted to get me married off really soon and his experience of finding a groom for his sister had been a disaster. It took him 8 long years to find a perfect groom for her, he started when she was 22 and found one at 30. However, he learnt from his mistakes (sarcastically) and decided that he would start searching for my groom really early ( as soon as i turn to the legal age of marriage) so that he could take his own sweet time in deciding and could get me married within the permissable marriageable age in India.
Did that happen? No, my bad. He felt the second guy who had sent me his horoscope was perfect for me and got me married in the same year. I had just completed 18 when I got married. my friends were shocked. They thought my husband was my boyfriend and my parents had to get me married off to the same guy, but no, it was an arranged marriage.
It took years for my friends to realise that and soon I got pregnant with my first child. My friends were still in college and they found it funny that someone their age is going to be a Mom. My son was born and they all pitied my situation. I told them they should also get married as they had no rights to be happy when I was so tied up in my maternal duties. They used to laugh it off and say I am jealous and to be true, yes I was.
My son is 10 years old now and most of my friends are still single at 30. I told them how lucky they are to be single and they in turn tell me how lucky I am. They tell me about how depressed they are. They don't want to be single, but there is no guy who wishes to hold their hands because guys want young girls. They said that their parents are as depressed as they are. They all have good jobs, but still there is uncertainty about future. They worry if they will ever be able to come past their singlehood and get into the next phase.
They tell me when they see my children they feel worse for I have completed at least half of raising my kids and they still have not yet started. I told them how marriage is, but they still want to get into it 🤐 mad people, I must say.
Anyways, I wish them all the best and hope that they meet their mister Right who has a wonderful mother who doesn't discriminate between a daughter and daughter in law.