definepedaphile, or dp, if I may call you that for short, I am sorry you were born with such a hated sexuality. This is a topic I have thought of before and I believe I understand where you are coming from - although I don't have the first hand experience. I wanted to say you are brave for standing up to society. But, as you seem aware, this is a tough act.
I believe a lot of the issue is human's natural desire to categorise things. Sadly, paedophilia has be classed with child abuse (and the sort) within the 'hate this' category. I would like to see more people in our world stop and actually think about things a little more. I would also like to see more people stop simply assimilating information, and taking part in individual research and critical thinking.
I, for one, have nothing against you dp. If anything I am really pleased that you are adamant about doing the lawful thing. I am sorry you got dealt with quite an average card when born, but I encourage you to continue challenging society.
This doesn't come lightly, I have young daughter myself and I have indeed explored this topic. I feel similarly to you, simply being attracted to something abnormal (kids, cars, other things) isn't a crime not something you can help. This reminds me of homosexuality and how long it has, and is, taking for people to understand and accept that it's natural. Of course I do believe quite strongly in the legal side, which, by the sounds of it, you do too.
I would like to ask one question, if I may. It may be a little blunt and in-you-face, but I figure that you have thought about this, I may learn from how you view it, and others reading this may think beyond the definition of paedophilia and empathise living with it.
What are your views on porn. I'll presume you masturbate, and I assume you do so with at least the imagination of kids. How far is ethical, or how far do you go? Just thoughts of fantasy kids, random kids you have seen all but once, kids you are familiar with, pictures of kids, porn pics of kids, porn vids of kids? Replace kids with what I am sexually attracted to (women) and I have done all of the above.
So what is your cut-off? Do you think this is fair (compared with being sexually attracted to something else)? and would you hope to change 'the way it is' at all? If so, how?
I hope this question is not too forward. If it is, please feel free to ignore this part!
RE: Pedophiles are not child molesters or rapists.