The postnatal determination of inxj
As soon as people are born, they may decide several dimensions first. For example, for ixtp type, their dominant function is introverted thinking ti. They give priority to the development of thinking when they are born, and the final decision is intuition / feeling tendency. So generally speaking, ISTP and INTP can transform each other in the day after tomorrow. Although intj and INTP are very similar, they can not transform each other in theory, and there are few in fact. More intj and INFJ may transform each other. As an inxj, the tendency of intuition or feeling has been determined at birth. In childhood, the first tendency is introverted / extroverted and the fourth tendency is basically determined. A man with a strong inner heart seldom changes his inner and outer orientation. The so-called chicken soup essay that changes from introversion to extroversion and then leads a happy life by the efforts of the day after tomorrow is pure nonsense.
But in childhood, the tendency of sensibility or rationality is still wavering. That is to say, whether it is intj or INFJ depends on childhood experience. Generally speaking, if he had a good childhood and a little care, he would grow up to be inclusive and become INFJ. On the other hand, if he had a bad childhood and suffered a lot of bullying, his character might be trained to be independent and cold, and he would tend to transform society when he grew up, that is, intj. Take a look at the characteristics of intj's childhood: when I was young, I was sensitive to the suspicion, hypocrisy, vanity, betrayal, misunderstanding, self deception of adults and the world around me Wait. How can these life experiences between relatives and friends not leave deep cracks (although we can understand and accept the seemingly dark things when we grow up, how many realistic helplessness and human nature are inevitable), but from then on, we instinctively doubt everything and distrust others. And instinctively, I don't think I can get others' feelings and trust. To put it bluntly, I think everything will change, I think everything is unreliable, except for the eternal time and interests, as well as just in time and staying in my own world.
Intj childhood spiral
- First of all, because of precocity and simple character, they will behave out of group. Parents hope that their children can be integrated into the collective, but this is useless. On the contrary, it will make them feel guilty and sad, and it is considered that they have failed to live up to their parents' expectations.
- Because they are lonely and introverted, they are very sensitive to the changes around them, sensitive, afraid of being hurt, lack of security, and want to seek a sense of identity.
- And they will mistakenly think that no one is with me and no one helps me because I am not good enough, so they try to get recognition by trying to be better. But they didn't expect that the lonely people will only attract jealousy and rejection even if they become better. This tendency is more prominent, parents will be more concerned, they will be more self blame, so repeatedly.
Childhood sequelae of intj
- Group inferiority. No matter how smart they are, how confident they are and how independent they are, they will feel inferior in all kinds of big occasions. The control of the scene, personal charm, extraordinary wisdom and profound insights make them invincible in the speech. But if you observe carefully, you will find many problems and be anxious in front of the audience. For some natural speaker types of Estp, this is not the case at all, although their performance is the same after taking the stage.
- The second point is inexplicably competitive. Since intj usually gives people the impression of indifference to fame and wealth, it seems difficult to understand their sudden display on some issues that do not involve principles.
- The third point is the extreme distrust of interpersonal relationship after being framed and excluded for a long time. Because of their inborn insight, they have observed the hypocrisy of interpersonal relationship since childhood, doubted the motive behind anything, instinctively rejected those feelings that could not understand the motive behind;
- The fourth point comes from the third. The experience of being bullied made them refuse to believe in the existence of unselfish love. They think that the world is equal, and everyone's love is produced to achieve a certain purpose. So when someone gives you love, you should also give equal return;
- Fifth, although he is a cold-blooded animal, he will suddenly help other people's emotional problems, especially when someone is helpless, which is called empathy;
- The sixth and most important point is that they actively keep a sense of distance with people.
Sense of distance
The sense of distance is an important external feature of intj, which can be seen at a glance. So why keep a sense of distance?
In terms of the most primitive function, it is to maintain self and observe the world in an objective manner.
The second is to protect oneself, control emotions and avoid emotions from impacting the internal thinking system. As I said before, this is a self-defense system;
The third is a sense of superiority maintained for self-esteem;
The last one is to avoid hurting others. This attribute can only be developed near adulthood.
Q: Why is intj easy to hurt others?
A: The truth is hurt.
"According to the latest scientific research, it's a part of human gene and human instinct to say bad things, so don't be a human on earth if you are upset. "
You know, you can find the answer to this question. I'll tell you, some scientists have blown the sky in their mouths these days. It's the necessity of human evolution to be able to say bad things. Naturally, it's only natural that people who don't speak ill of themselves are excluded - against evolution, they deserve to die. That's why I want to emphasize that evolution and intelligent design should exist at the same time. Otherwise, intj would have been extinct in the evolutionary theory that the minority obeyed the majority to expel the good coins. You have to remember my words: the science of abandoning morality is the most terrible religion in the world.
Well, in this world, what normal people should ask is not why we should say bad things, but why they should tell the truth. Let's change the topic:
Q: Why is intj always telling the truth?
A: Because of their mental cleanliness.
To understand intj, we only need to master two points, one is their desire for control, the other is this kind of mental cleanliness. So we went back to the question of anima and animas.
As long as you try to get close, you will understand that intj can't stand hypocrisy and lies, whether it's the stimulation of childhood or the infatuation with the perfect self image. It doesn't matter if you are deceived by lies, but you can see through anyone's actions with intj's IQ, and you can feel anyone's hypocrisy naturally. So they want to find pure people, and of course, they themselves become very pure. This kind of complex and simple characteristics distort each other, which creates intj's extraordinary and refined temperament.
Compromise and struggle to transform the world
Come on, ladies and gentlemen, please close your eyes and follow my thoughts There is such a boy. He is quiet, introverted, intelligent, peaceful, and philosophical. He can fight at the critical moment. He can carry all kinds of sufferings. He has extraordinary ability, excellent performance, never happy, never sad. In his deep eyes, it seems that there is a big secret hidden. Under the calm appearance, he seems to bear the deep suffering, even in front of you As if far away from you, even in your side, but still can't touch, as illusory gods come down to earth, will be universal beings, the most important is - the most important point! He is still a handsome man! Girls scream! Only in the myth of the man appeared!
Then he found out that he had no money, so the lights went out.
It's a joke, but it's not all a joke: This is the so-called problem of the world.
In fact, there are many problems in this world. Most people choose to compromise with the world and a few choose to fight against the world. There is no doubt that intj is the minority.
