I don't have kid and don't want kids (I'm 31), but I live at an ecovillage where there are a bunch of homeschooled kids running around. Most of the kids are great, definitely highly intelligent, highly articulate. Almost all are respectful. But there's one kid I have in mind particularly who is what I would call the epitome of a brat, and a bully as well. I know their parenting style-- extremely patient, extremely nonviolent (this means no yelling, no raising of the voice, etc). He's intelligent (I don't know how much so). But he's just not pleasant to be around-- for me, for other adults, for other kids. Another kid I know very well (both these kids are roughly the same age 5-8 yrs), is disciplined with raised voices etc, but she's as charming and intelligent as any. it just makes me wonder what all is going on between the various kids and character manifestations. (A 3rd specimen, one of my best friends in high school, was unschooled, one of the most ingenious people I know, not to mention creative, but has had major problems with drug abuse, socialization, and schizophrenia.) Just interesting to think about how this all plays out...