I'd say I was naturally a very honest person. For the last 20 years I've spent my time cultivating a presence that inspires authentic living. I don't like to talk about it much though because the life skills sector has become so bloated with people teaching what they learn but not practising what they preach. That's generally what happens when an area of business blows up, it gets filled with snake oils salesmen and wheeler dealers that do the grift but rarely understand what they teach.
I've carved a life out for myself of honest living but I'm always on the lookout for new ways to inspire others, and I had the idea a few weeks ago.. what if I lived so authentically that I was just brutally honest with everyone I meet? Would it work well or is it just a load of bollocks like a lot of people say it is?
Well, I took the test and I was brutally honest with everyone I met and here's some of the conclusions I've drawn.
People really don't like honesty.
I'm not sure if this is limited to being a British thing but there are comfortable lies we like telling ourselves daily and it can sometimes shatter our self perception when those lies are pointed out. My best friend really didn't appreciate me telling him that his idea that he had for work was terrible and he'd do much better focusing on what he's good at with something than he could grow than purely looking at the money. Neither did my wife like that I told her that her opinions on men and women were biased and not practical because of her good upbringing and relatively healthy and prosperous friend group. Some people just don't have that luck or access to wealth straight away.
Now I'll be clear. I hated every moment of this experiment because usually I'll let most things slide and allow people to think the way they want to think. Who am I to barge in and bellow my unwanted opinion all over. Sometimes the subtle lies we tell ourselves keep us moving with forward momentum and do no harm in the grand scheme of things. Ricky Gervais' The Invention of Lying should have displayed that in all its glory.
Sometimes comfortable lies are harmless
The internet has characterised that we as a population don't like hearing harsh truths, and whilst that's true, it's also completely wrong that it's a bad thing.
I often like to think of my wife when she's waking up as a way to solidify this. If I were to tell her that her breath stinks likes shit and she looks like she was dragged through a hedge backwards it's probably going to set her on the wrong foot for the day. There's a lot to be said about the mood you wake up in and how it frames your mindset for the rest of the day.
So I bring her a cup of coffee with a smile and say, "Good morning beautiful" - even after many years of marriage this sort of comforting lie has lots of power over the day.
So the internet is wrong. Sometimes a little lie goes a long way.
Authentic Living v Brutal Honesty
If you ask Andrew Tate about brutal honesty he'd probably call you a feeble crying pussy cunt to your face. Men are since being pulled in the direction that it's better to be Alpha and uncaring with your raw power, but then that lacks one absolutely striking point. Women hate raw honesty and uncaring men, and the whole point of Andrew Tate existing is to level up the guys.
This whole movement, which has people like Tate as a figurehead tells us that men need to level up their life if they want to attract women. Yes, this is true. I fully agree that you should absolutely level up your life. But as my last week has shown me I was dreadfully unpopular with the ladies and had to even go as far as to tell them the experiment I was doing.
You see, eventually people grow up, mature, figure out how the world works and they are more wiser and more able to overcome the challenges life throws at you. Women stop going for the bad guy when they realise their aim out of life wasn't to be treated like shit and look for someone that will treat them right and look after them. This is learned from age and experience. Their will for modern fulfilment will eventually overcome their primal urges.
It's the same for men. We strive for enrichment, encouragement, and a prosperous life. We learn in our 20's that strikingly hot and beautiful does not necessarily equate to level headed and peaceful, or even child rearing capabilities. Quite frankly through my own experience it's quite the opposite.
But to bring this home authentic living would be living life as honestly as you can without stepping on any social faux pas; without rocking the boat. There is no need to set someone on the wrong foot for the day if it isn't crucial to your "getting ahead with what needs done," sure, you absolutely can be an arrogant idiot to everyone you meet but that necessarily wont build you a network of friends or people you can draw on when the time comes.
You can be an Alpha whilst being kind too
Quite frankly I hate the term "Alpha" because it suggests to other men that there is a need to be a certain way, when personally I think just being comfortable in your own skin is fine. Just practise saying no and standing up for what you believe in a lot more.
You can still be kind and say no too. Remember this then next time you try and pretend to be something you're not.
Hi Hive, I'm shatteredsilence.
Hey everyone. I'm shatteredsilence, this is my first hive fire post. I'm here to show everyone (and my network) that you can build from scratch a completely separate wealth package on hive if you just work 1-2 hours per day in your spare time and that can work up to a significant amount in the next 6-7 years. Not everything needs to be instant.
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