You do not have the right to say bad things to others. But you can always be ready to give compliments to people. Good motivation is strong and inspire people by light. People always want to be better. You can never teach you kids how you would like them to be, you can show them a way, that is best teaching, because you will let the them to teach themselves. Tell me one person who isn't learned from life itself? Be yourself and do not let others, even you relatives to say how they like you to be.
Usually dads want sons to be who they are NOW become. But Guess what. It can't be, it takes time to grow there. Same as everyone else grew. Can't lie to myself to be somebody else.
Be yourself!