Do you feel like...
you’re one of the very few who don’t know what kind of job / career to go for? But everyone else around you does? Is this why you feel restless and frustrated? You feel there must be some particular (occupation) which you do like and could enjoy all they long…
Let me tell you. You are a 100% RIGHT!
There is a biiig but though! Many of us are stopped, almost all the time we resolve to change our situation in personal life or in the working environment, something happens. For some mysterious reason our will power and determination melts away. Either we allow ourselves to get distracted. Even though we planned so hard, something crosses our way.
There are a couple reasons for that...
One reason is, that it’s so hard to know what we want and to follow through is because especially nowadays, there are an abundance of options and shiny things we could go for. In the past, this was different.
Our parents or even more so our grandparents had fewer choices and clearer directions. They had less option than we have today. It was completely accepted to simply choose what the father, mother, grandfather or grandmother has chosen in terms of their profession. For example if your father was a plumber or a doctor, chances where high their children took the same path. Later on, it became “normal” that teenagers and students where pushed in fields/ careers (still nowadays quite common…) which are safe and seem to be promising. Like becoming a physician, studying electronics, becoming a teacher or whatever.
This wasn’t always true!
It’s a tribute to our parents and their parents that our generation has the privilege and freedom to choose a job, degree or career in general which we feel is a fit to us. Prior generations had not all the time we have today to ponder what else we could do with our life.
There was a time where people had to work at least 14 hours a day and much more. Working six days a week was also very common. Today we are working (at least that’s what we expect…) to work no more than 8 hours a day, no more than five days a week. Which leaves us with plenty of time to do whatever we want to. However, this comes with a price. Working so much less gives people time to think. It’s much less about survival as it used to be. Countless people are bored; they do not know what to do with so much free time! So either they try to distract themselves or start searching for more meaningful occupation and life in general.
Are you aware of the fact that most people invest a crazy amount of time to plan their next holiday, buying a particular car, house or their wedding? What about creating a plan for your life and/ or career?
Most people’s expectations go through the roove...
about their personal life and or job/ career but how much time are they willing to invest into planning and setting goals?
During war time less people get depressed because it’s all about survival. Peoples focus is all about how to survive the next day. They know day to day exactly what to do. There is no time to ponder about anything else but survival. But when there is no emergency to get out to, we have to create goals which are meaningful to us.
You can create meaningful goals if you know what you want. But it’s still quite new for our society to have the freedom to choose. This is still a new way of living although our latest generation are already at the stage that they don’t know about these “old days” and therefore have even higher expectations. We still have very little experience when it comes to create, define and plan our very own life.
More time to spend and more freedom equals more structure, which we need to create for ourselves. Building and even maintaining a structure which you designed is much more challenging to maintain in comparison to follow someone else’s structure. That’s why the majority of people are employed. Or why most unemployed fall into a (kind of) depression. Being employed means (usually) having a very clear structure. Getting up in the morning at a specific time and so on...