Judging others can be either good or bad for you. Your intention is what actually matters. If you're judging someone not to harm him but to make a personal decision, it is good for you but if you're judging someone and intend to harm him based on your judgment, then it's the worst thing you could ever do in your life. Judging a book by its cover make little to no sense at all.
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Every person is different. We all have existing friends and most of us love to make even more friends. But before you do, it is important that you go through enough reading and judge the person since the beginning to make sure that you become friend with a nice guy. One of the occasions, when you might have to judge a person's character, is when you are on a date.
There are some specific patterns that can be found in most people and when someone wants to judge anyone, he can just make use of those patterns and notice some stuff carefully. The accuracy rate may differ since every person has a different level of understanding. What looks normal to you may look abnormal to some other guy and that's completely normal since we are human, but the study is important before judging anyone. Here are some of the ways to judge someone properly.
# 1 - Communication style is important:
Whether you're judging the character of your potential girlfriend or judging the character of your employer or employee, communication style of a person helps you greatly in judging whether she should be your choice or not. Make sure that the person you're dealing with is a good listener as it all comes down to listening in the relationship.
Pay attention if the person is responsive to what you're saying or likes to stay silent (in other words, boring). It can be a little bit tricky, that person might be a little bit nervous but it can be clearly judged if the person is nervous or it's his style. You can ask on the spot, "Are you nervous?" or just say something that could reduce the level of nervousness.
# 2 - Body language:
It won't be of much interest if the person is acting like a robot or showing the lack of interest by not making a proper eye contact. The reason why eye contact is necessary is that it increases the understanding of a couple. Though I am assuming that you are judging the character of your potential partner, if he/she lacks in eye-contact, it may not be a good idea to move further.
Eye contact is not the only thing that falls into Body Language's category. There are many things such as the style of hands while speaking and the expressions on person's face. But you can say that eye contact is the most important thing you need to look.
# 3 - Honesty Check:
Excessively mentioning how honest you are doesn't make sense because honesty is something that can only be proved by actions and not by excessively assuring someone. If your potential partner is excessively mentioning his/her honesty or praising it, you've got a red flag. It doesn't mean that you should walk away on the spot, no. It simply means that you need to look other ways to judge his/her honesty level because there's every possibility that he/she may be telling you the truth about himself/herself
Pay attention to the tone and radical changes in the voice as most of the times, it shows that the person is lying and trying to hide something. Another indication of lying is that some people touch and scratch the nose a lot because they are nervous and fear if they would be caught out while lying.
Anyways, there are many other ways but due to the lack of time, I couldn't list other ways. If you have something to suggest, please leave a comment below.