Tidak perlu mencibiri, tak perlu menyudutkan, tak perlu mempersoalkan mereka yang belum nikah. Sebab nasib kita tak semuanya sama. Bagaimana mungkin engkau memaksa mereka nikah, sedangkan Allah belum mengizinkannya?
Ketika mereka masih membujang, bukan berarti melupakan sunnah Nabi. Mungkin ada hal lain yang sangat penting mereka utamakan.
Nasib kita tak semuanya sama. Engkau kadang cantik dan tampan. Kadang engkau alim lagi berharta sehingga orang mudah tertarik.
Saudara, perjalanan hidup kita berbeda. Jalan yang mereka tempuh mungkin tak semulus jalan engkau lalui. Gelar mereka kadang tidak sama sepertimu. Posisi mereka belum tentu persis denganmu.
Nasib kita tak semua sama. Kebahagian yang mereka rasakan juga tak serupa dengan keindahan yang engkau miliki.
Nasib kita tak semua sama. Engkau mungkin mudah bertanya kapan menikah. Tetapi engkau tak pernah membayangkan betapa beratnya mereka memberi jawaban, sebab mereka harus memikirkan hal yang belum tentu terfikir olehmu. Kadang mereka tak punya orang tua. Kadang mereka harus menanggung biaya hidup keluarga dan beragam alasan agama lainnya.
Saudara, nasib kita tak semua sama. Mereka bahagia, sebab engkau telah lebih dahulu menikah. Artinya nasib baikmu tak senasib buruknya.
Semua kita ingin hidup bahagia. Semua kita punya target masa depan. Tapi tak semua kita bisa mendapatkan apa yang direncanakan, sebab itu Takdir Tuhan.
Nasib kita tak semua sama. Percayalah, semua kita ingin menikah, tapi Allah belum mengutus jodoh dan memudahkan rezekinya sebagaimana janji-Nya bahwa jodoh dan rezeki di tangan Allah.
Kalau engkau mengharapkan mereka segera mengakhiri masa lajang, doakan saja, semoga Allah mudahkan dan pertemukan dengan jodoh yang tepat, pada waktu yang tepat, dan di tempat yang tepat.
-Abu Teuming. Penyuluh Agama dan Pembimbing Calon Pengantin di KUA.
No need to stand up, no need to corner, no need to question those who are not married. Because our fate is not all the same. How can you force them to marry, while God has not allowed them?
When they are single, it does not mean to forget the Sunnah of the Prophet. There may be other things that are very important they prioritize.
Our fate is not all the same. You are sometimes beautiful and handsome. Sometimes you are alive again treasure so that people are easily attracted.
Brother, our life journey is different. The way they go may not be as smooth as your way through. Their titles are sometimes not the same as you. Their position is not necessarily exactly with you.
Our fate is not all the same. The happiness they feel is also not similar to the beauty you have.
Our fate is not all the same. You may easily ask when to get married. But you never imagine how hard they give an answer, because they have to think of things you do not necessarily think of. Sometimes they have no parents. Sometimes they have to bear the cost of family living and various other religious reasons.
Brother, our fate is not all the same. They are happy, because you have already been married. It means your good fortune does not work.
All we want to live happily. All of us have future targets. But not all of us can get what is planned, because it is God's Destiny.
Our fate is not all the same. Believe me, all we want to get married, but God has not sent a mate and ease his sustenance as his promise that mate and sustenance in the hands of God.
If you expect them to end the singles soon, pray for them, may God be easy and meet with the right mate, at the right time, and in the right place.
-Abu Teuming