Gay Couple Takes on Tradition: Aditya and Kaushik’s Bold Love Story
Gay couple Aditya Bandopadhyay and Dr. Kaushik Dowarah confront India’s norms, fighting for love, rights, and visibility. From legal battles to their Kerala farm, their resilience redefines queer identity in a nation slow to change.
June heralds Pride Month, a vibrant celebration of love, identity, and resilience for the LGBTQIA community worldwide, honouring their struggles and triumphs. In India, the pride movement has surged, with colorful parades and growing visibility, yet the Supreme Court’s October 2023 verdict denying legal recognition to same-sex marriage crushed hopes for many, leaving gay couples like Aditya and Kaushik in limbo. Aditya Bandopadhyay, once a fierce lawyer championing LGBTQ+ rights, traded courtrooms for a serene farm in Kerala, where he now lives with his partner, Dr. Kaushik Dowarah, a PhD in environmental science and aspiring full-time author, dedicating his time to writing and sustainable living.
For Aditya, Pride Month is a defiant reclaiming of space and joy for the queer community. As a former lawyer who fought for LGBTQIA rights, he sees "visibility" as a counterpoint to the systemic celebration of heterosexuality. “Heterosexual people have a series of celebrations not only throughout the year but throughout their lives. Engagements, weddings, anniversaries, childbirth—all these are nothing but heterosexuality being actually celebrated. These events reinforce the legitimacy and visibility of straight relationships at every stage. For queer people, though, this kind of validation and visibility was historically absent. For the longest time, our lives were lived under oppression—religious, legal, and social. So Pride Month, for me, is about reclaiming that space. It’s about celebrating our lives, our existence, and saying we deserve joy and love and visibility too. It’s a positive thing that this month is now widely recognised as Pride Month across the world. It’s a symbolic but powerful way for queer people to affirm our identity. Visibility matters. And I cannot stress that enough. It tells someone who feels alone that they are not. That who they are is valid and worth celebrating,” Aditya reflects.