Yeah I am just gonna say it: Sometimes, for some of us, we don't want the positivity.
We really don't.
Yes that said, we don't want to be happy, not at this time at least.
So please... all you bloggers, writers, life coaches, speakers, entrepreneurs or whatever, take your shit down a notch, and listen up:
1) Sometimes we don't believe in you and your methods
You can't just say, "This worked for me and therefore it will work for you." It doesn't work like that.
Just because it's worked for you doesn't mean it'd work for us. Just because it's something generally positive doesn't mean we give a shit.
Each of us are unique and different.
You don't know us, and you don't know the things we carry.
There is an extremely specific solution out there for each of us and it's our job to find it. Stop preaching as if your solution is the end all and be all. That's arrogant.
2) Sometimes we're just not ready
Need I say more?
Would you attend a wake of a friend's mom and start preaching shit?
That's a morbid example, but you know what I mean.
In short, give us time. Just because you're happy and choked up with positivity doesn't mean that you're right.
3) You need to let us make our own mistakes
At least, for the things that are not drastically life-changing.
You can't coddle us. You shouldn't be overprotective. And most definitely, please don't smother us.
Shoving your positive lessons down our throats isn't going to help.
That's how you raise millenials today who end up growing up to become extremely self-entitled.
And ever heard of blessings in disguise? Think big picture man.
4) Some of us just want to be unhappy and I think that's perfectly fine
That sounds weird. That sounds crazy even. Hearing that would go way over our heads.
But who the fuck really perfectly understands ourselves?
We're just human. Give us a break.
We feel what we feel and we have that right.
That right is called self-love.
That is acknowledging how we feel and that is the START to healing and recovery.
So many positive people today try to preach their shit to the point that they practically force people in pain to deny how they feel and that's not good. It's only going to resurface later.
So please... give us a break. We are not on the same page yet, but we will get there.
5) Sometimes the solution is as simple as having a beer
Ever thought that all you positive, life-loving hippies are blowing things out of proportion?
Ever thought that you guys are the one with the problem as you think EVERY wrong needs to be righted when sometimes, you can just let shit go and not complain instead?
Ever thought that... you're one who's actually unhappy and your crusade for world positivity is a reflection of your own insecurities as you can't grasp why others don't follow your ways? (And then you get mad. I've encountered many of you before. You guys seriously need to get off your high horses. So much for positivity.)
Phew! Okay. Somewhat of a rant over.
I believe in this shit though.
Too much of anything is never good. You can't deny that.
Peace,
Alden
Here's a free book by me that isn't choked up with stupid cheesy advice: 12 Things Happy People Don't Give a Fuck About!