All greetings from warm Riga. Here is bright and sunny and it is seem summer returns. Literally yesterday it was cold and rainy, and today the sun is shining again and the air is warm.
Today I really want to chat with you on a topic that is very relevant for me and very interesting. Last week I was speaking with my acquaintance and I was so impressed with his words! I'll start from the very beginning. My friend was going on a trip for two whole weeks and we talked a little during all this time. And just recently the hero, about whom I am telling now, comes to Riga. I call him on emotions, start asking about the trip, ask questions and, at the end of the horses, I propose to meet. It is important to note that it was Saturday evening. It is clear that the friend was tired (yet the whole day to fly is exhausting enough, special, given the fact that he has aerophobia - the fear of flying). He refused, but at the same time, it is quite flawed, rude. To this action, I decided to react seriously enough and immediately said that I was not happy when they talked to me in such a tone (I must admit, I also answered a little bit rude). We finished the conversation. Literally in about five minutes, my friend calls me and says this phrase: "It was not you." In the end, he apologized, we reconciled, everything is fine. But this phrase: "It was not you" - she struck me. About it, I want to chat with you now.
It was not you.
Once upon a time I watched a video of one of the bloggers whose updates I watch on the YouTube channel and she also pondered on a topic. , in fact, it seems, I cannot even remember which one, but I liked her opinion, she just as I say, it was my "tattoo on the brain."
Remember, some time ago I already told that I believe that in our World there is absolutely everything. There is good, but evil. There is wealth, and there is poverty. There is happiness, but there is misfortune. There is joy, but there is sadness. And this list of opposites can be continued indefinitely. So, it seems to me that every person is a whole Universe, it seems to me that every person we can find out just everything. Each of us can be in a good mood, and may be in a bad mood. As in our life, completely different things happen to us - we are at the height, and we are at the bottom. The main idea that I'm trying to convey is that each person can be very different, depending on the situation and circumstances.
And why are we so actively trying to give this or that phenomenon / event / character quality / emotion a plus sign - that is, good or a minus sign - that is, bad. Why these labels?
Some time ago I talked with a psychologist about the emotion of anger. Then I was still firmly convinced that this is a very negative emotion, which must be disposed of once it takes shape in the distant horizon. But the psychologist offered me another look at our emotion "anger". It turns out that such a seemingly negative and negative emotion have amazing sides. The emotion of anger that drives man to action. It directly gives energy and strength for a breakthrough. It's clear that you should not live and act always on this emotion, but sometimes it can be a good push.
I remember a couple of years ago I had a situation when my distant, distant relative well, so annoyed me! She said that I did something (it does not matter what exactly) and I cannot do it at all, but I am not worthy to come to this result. And I so wanted to achieve this goal! Now I think that at that moment there was a change in me. Now, if I have decided to do something, nobody will persuade me with any words, you can tell me that I am not worthy of it, that I am not strong enough and continue in the same spirit ad infinitum. I just miss these words, as I say: "I live by," but at that time I still depended very much on the opinions of close people, always listened to their advice. And at the moment when I heard the next words that I cannot do something, I was so angry! I directly put a spruce for myself to achieve, not to prove to my cousin, but to achieve a result for myself.
Over time, I became more confident in myself and I no longer need this emotion to act, but once it helped me greatly to change my life and attitude towards it.
Therefore, it seems to me that there is no good and bad. You can always look at the situation / person / circumstance from different angles. And in my opinion, certainly there are no: "It was not you", "you are different, I know you". The medal has two sides, and in each person there are an infinite number of them. As the saying goes: "What you will awak, that you will receive."