Help yesterday's child to accept his body, find themselves and not lose emotional the link with parents.
Adolescents with adequate self-esteem, are able to answer for their actions, calmly tolerate failure, strive to become the best. They are confident, do not humiliate the weak, do not be rude to others.
Only adults can help teenagers develop self-esteem. Here are some tips on how to do this.
1. Don't compare with others
A teenager who is constantly compared to more successful, docile and beautiful, does not know how to appreciate himself. Instead of looking for and developing his strengths, he becomes fixated on the slightest mistakes. As a result, the child may lose motivation to do anything at all. After all, others, according to parents, are always better than him.
Adults should learn to notice something good in their children and say it. All children are different: some get a's in math, others are good dancers. It is very important for a teenager to see and accept his own personality, whatever it may be.
2. Praise for achievements
A teenager should be praised when he really worked on himself. Empty praise only devalues real efforts. Reasons for pride can be both tangible and intangible. You can praise as the five in school, and for the fact that the child has given someone a place in transport.
If a teenager does not know how to reveal their abilities, offer him some occupation: music, dance, crafts, volunteering, home help, scientific courses. Maybe not right away, but he'll find a place to prove himself. After the first success, the child will understand what he is capable of, and he will rise self-esteem.
A teenager needs to feel your support and understanding to survive the inner fears.
3. Respect his opinion and taste
Never criticize the taste of your child. Even if you think that he is wearing it is unclear how, and enabled their music a bit painful. The child needs to feel in you support and sincere interest, he does not need your value judgments. Let him find himself, learn to choose and defend his own opinion. Be interested in what he listens to and watches. Otherwise you run the risk of being branded as a nerd and lose contact with him.
Ask your child to upload new music to your smartphone, visit quests and concerts of his favorite bands, watch movies. This will help to keep the emotional connection and understand what is worrying your teenager.
4. Let your boy sport
In adolescence the body changes greatly. Many children gain weight, become clumsy, slouch, suffer from acne. It is difficult to remain satisfied with your appearance. In addition, most of the time teenagers spend sitting: at the Desk, then at the computer. Energy is not directed in the right direction, and children, not knowing what to do with it, become aggressive or capricious.
To bring self-esteem and feelings in order, the teenager should regularly engage in sports. This will not only strengthen the body and increase endurance, but also relieve tension, help to gain confidence.
Teenagers often want to engage in extreme sports, such as snowboarding, skate, street dancing. Making new tricks, the teenager as if proves to himself that his body obeys.
5. Deal with yourself
Analyze the atmosphere in the house: how family members treat each other, what they say, how they behave in conflict situations. To have a teenager formed an adequate self-esteem, it must first be present at the parents themselves. Start any education with themselves.
