Hello Dear Steemians, many of us used to be victims of negative people in certain stages of their lives. It doesn’t matter how positive your attitude toward something is, they would always shake it. Whenever you feel enthusiastic about a new endeavor or person they meet you with endless reasons why it is not good for you or why it won’t work out. After spending sometime with them your spirit become low, the world looks ugly and the air is heavy.
Negative people share some or all of the following:
- They see only the negative side of each person.
No one is perfect that is what we all understand. But for negative people no one is good. They only focus and define everyone by his vices. - They see only the negative aspect of every situation.
Any life situation can be explained in numerous ways and has many effects on many levels. Some effects are can bee seen as negative and others as positive. Negative people keep complaining and exaggerating how this situation is bad overseeing it’s potential positive consequences. - For every solution you propose for their or others’ problems there is an obstacle.
- They can’t understand good-will, there is hidden intentions behind any good actions even charity.
- They would make fool of you whenever you tried to explain why something is not that bad.
- They perceive their negativity as wisdom. And they are so confident and stubborn when it comes to their opinions.
- The careers for them are means of living not for success.
- They never speak about aspiration. Their mentality is all about survival.
The irony is their mentality harms them more than others. Yet they are not aware of it. When you find yourself around a negative person there are some ideas to maintain your attitude:
- They are not necessarily evil persons. They are unaware of their maintaining such mentality and how harmful it is.
- Be consciously aware of how their words affect you, with time you will become immune to their negativity.
- Whenever they speak bear in mind that their opinions are not the ultimate reality, rather a one distorted by their life situations and experience.
- See through their minds like what could possibly have brought them to these opinions.
- Understand their background and culture.
Only when you reach a point when they no longer affect you, you can start changing their mindsets if you wish. I believe they need this very much.
Peace, love and joy.