Remember the Goal: Seduction, not Manipulation

Being a seductress is not the same as getting guys to do things for you by promising
rewards for their good behavior. In fact, being able to successfully pull off that part
of a seductress is its own reward. It's like waking up one morning and discovering
that you have superpowers. Now it's up to you how you use those powers. You can
be a good seductress, or you can be a tease who soon develops a reputation for
being more trouble than she's worth.

If you use your newfound skills to manipulate men and force them to do things they
wouldn't otherwise willingly do, you stand outside the circle of sisterhood and subject
yourself to all of the dangers that come with standing alone.

You have been warned!

Seduction and Flirting

And she'll tease you,
She'll unease you
All the better just to please you
She's precocious and she knows just
What it takes to make a pro blush
She got Greta Garbo stand off sighs,
She's got Bette Davis eyes
-- Betty Davis Eyes (Bonnie Tyler)

What is Flirting?

Flirting is the act of employing certain non-verbal techniques in order to convey your
interest in the person you are flirting with.

While flirting alone is not seduction, it is an ingredient in the spell that seduction
weaves. The reason why flirting was not covered in Chapter 3 is because it is not
something you want to engage in with every man you meet. While it is a part of your
overall Seduction Signature, it is a weapon that should only be used when you are
playing for keeps.

Random flirting only results in getting you a reputation as a flirt, and that's right up
there with being thought of as a tease. Teases and flirts are not seductresses; they
are 14-year old girls trying out their charms for the boys in the classroom.

When to Flirt

Flirting is an appropriate action to take when a target of your interest has responded
positively to one or more of the seduction plays that you leaned about in Chapter 3.
Essentially, you sent out a subliminal message, he picked up on it, and you're ready
to raise the stakes. Here's how you do that.

Pre-Requisites for Successful Flirting

You need to adopt a flirtatious mindset if you want to achieve the desired effect. If
you're depressed, feeling ill, or in a bad mood, you're never going to pull it off so you
might as well stay home.

The successful flirt has a playful personality, a sense of humor, and the ability to
read other people's reactions. Flirting works best when you have self-confidence and
when you feel good about yourself. Learn to see flirting as a fun activity, something
you look forward to doing, and you'll always perform to the best of your abilities.
Keep track of what works and what doesn't when you're flirting. Disregard anything
that doesn't return the desired results, and work on further developing those that do.
If your flirting goal is to have the man of your interest approach you and strike up a
conversation, you'd better make sure you look open and approachable and not like
some ice goddess who is going to reject him in front of his buddies and a room full of
strangers.

I will go over basic flirting techniques in my next article.