We tend to be generous towards people who can't get over someone. It sounds romantic, if a little sad. The love affair happened a year ago but still, the excess thought remains loyal to every detail of the story. Maybe they've moved to another country. Perhaps they've married someone else. Maybe, they're dead. None of it matters.
We should gently recognize that being disappointed and abandoned has its curious satisfactions. It is in an emotional sense, a very safe position to be in indeed. Yet true love isn't to be acquired with pining for an absent figure. It means daring to engage with a truly frightening prospect.
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