Carolina Kostner who was the Italian Olympic medalist for skating once has told “I think everybody has ups and downs in their lives. We learn from the biggest disappointments, right? You learn how to be humble to yourself and to be humble to others.”
Do we really has to go through or biggest disappointments to be humble to our selves and to others ? This question made me to write a post today.
Today is 27th of January, 2018 and Hello Steemians,
Life has it's ups and downs. It's perfectly all right. That's how a life should be. But in my opinion if we keep looking at the source of unhappiness, we are going to be more unhappy experiencing the same unhappy loop.
Sitting and asking
- "Why Am I so unhappy ?"
- "Why do I feel so bad ?"
- "What makes me happy ?" etc,
are the wrong questions to ask looking at only the downs of the life.
The Brazilian writer Paulo Coelho wrote a passage in 2005 in his beautiful novel "The Zahir" That,
"No one should ever ask themselves that: why am I unhappy? The question carries within it the virus that will destroy everything. If we ask that question, it means we want to find out what makes us happy. If what makes us happy is different from what we have now, then we must either change once and for all or stay as we are, feeling even more unhappy."
His words doesn't imply that feeling down is bad. He is just suggesting not to look only at the downs. But, sometimes we need to feel down times to times. I always thought, that being positive or negative is just an option and I can be happy all the time. But, No. People will soon start to call you a moron, if you feel happy for everything happening around you. So, remove the idea of "being happy all the time is possible" out of your head.
Meantime, it is always better not to believe what you think. Our feelings has an involvement with the neuro chemicals within the brain. Depending on our mood, the brain keeps secreting different chemicals. It is always better not to believe anything what we think when we specially at a sad mood. When you are happy, it's a different case, but, when you are sad, you should not believe your thoughts at all. Instead, wait until you become mentally stable.
Once you gain your mental stability back, you will come to notice you were never upset for the reason you thought. Not only you. We all are the same. We are never upset for the reason what we think. And, while feeling the pain, we feel the growth within.
I felt that, feeling the pain and forgiving the past has brought more personal growth within instead of fighting or resisting the pain. As you start working on purifying, cleansing and healing your life more and more each day, wanting to live a meaningful, happy, healthy and balanced life, more of your shadows start to surface. As if they’re asking you to bring light where there was once darkness, ‘forcing’ you to face, love and embrace all that you are. With both the good and the bad. With both your darkness and your light.
Do we really has to go through or biggest disappointments to be humble to our selves and to others ? Yes. In order to see the light, we need to go through the dark. We really has to pass the down side.
Enjoy Life. Good Luck.