I moved to a new country and obviously I'm lacking in friends and just normal human relationships. It's strange when you don't have contact with other people for prolonged periods of time. You forget to communicate and just behave. The first few approaches are cringey and nerve-wrecking, yes, even just asking simple questions such as, "Where's the nearest Subway?".
It's been a few weeks now that I'm here, and things are really looking up. I decided fuck the loneliness, it's time to combat my fears and anxiety and push myself into the uncomfortable zones. I started yesterday (after a 3-4 month break) and things went very well. I'm still a newbie with pickup, but my current 2 goals are just to find a girl I could have a half-relationship with (I don't go for the standard dating thing, I'm more into poly or fuckbuddies as I'll always want more girls) and progress with my social calibration skills. I decided to go out every single day after work (right now my schedule's a bit screwey, I'm going BEFORE.. which isn't really working all that well) and try at least 2 approaches. If I could do more, that'd be great.
I'm most likely going to start a journey blog about this, but we'll see how that goes.
So far, from pickup I've been able to get a few numbers, dates, and even the most euphoric sex I've had in quite a while. It's just.. so different when you take a random beautiful girl from the streets and go clubbing with them and just having a fun time. Also I NEED to pickup, as there's only 2 things in life that motivate me truly. Money and girls. They're not THE most important things out there, but they're certainly on the list. Without girls, I go full lazy mode. I stop caring about my health, I stop caring how I look or act, and I just degenerate. I get comfortably numb with my current situation.
Ever since I decided to get back into approaching, I started a water fast to lose weight (currently day 3), I've gotten more motivation for NoFap (currently day 6) and I'm starting to dress a teeeny bit better. I'm all about treating life like a video game and tracking my progress with everything.
My current challenges are: work on group sets, open a girl on public transportation, get a girl off her phone, open a couple set, and just going for the hottest ones in the malls, streets, shops, etc.
Yesterday I decided to warm up by just approaching a guy who was skateboarding INSIDE the mall lol.. chill dude. Next I felt approach anxiety for like an hour or two so I went to a nearby library and decided to open a group set, it was cringey and just a horrible approach.. but I felt good about it. I did it. I worked on my fear.
Here's the mall we're talking about:
A few hours later I went to another mall and finally did my first decent approach. It wasn't perfect, and there was no sexual escalation. But you know what? My only goal was to successfully communicate with a female, and have fun while at it. Did I? Oh boy, you betcha! She kind of lead me but whatever, I'll take it. We went biking around the city and her directions were horrible, but I haven't been biking in FOREVER and it was just such a euphoric experience! I felt truly free. No fucks given.
We just chatted for a few hours later and then parted our ways. I went to approach another set and it was total rejection, and I just called it out and laughed it off. I basked in the awkwardness. Whatever :)
Today I've got some things to do so I'm not fully going into pickup, and I need to watch the time but I'll try to go fast with it. Maybe I'll get some good results! Anyways, peace out. BTW, a huge help in motivation is just watching RSDMax, RSDTyler, or Julien Blanc. They're videos have helped me insanely.
Oh, and one more thing. Walking around and biking altogether burned like 1,200 calories. Fantastic exercise ;)
