About good manners.

You can get a good education not only in your family or at school, but also... in yourself.

You just need to know what real education is.

I do not undertake to give lessons of good manners, as he does not consider himself exemplary. But some thoughts I would like to share with readers.

I am convinced, for example, that the real education is manifested primarily at home, in his family, in relations with his family.

If a man on the street passes forward a strange woman (even in the bus!) and even opens her door, and at home will not help a tired wife to wash the dishes – he is ill-mannered.

If he is polite with acquaintances, and with home is irritated on every occasion, – he is an ill-mannered person. If he does not consider the character, psychology, habits and desires of their loved ones – he ill-mannered man.

If you are already in adulthood he takes for granted the help of the parents and does not see that they have need of help, he is rude man.

If he loudly gets the radio and TV or just talks loudly when someone at home prepares lessons or reads (even if it will be his small children), he is an ill–mannered person and will never make his children educated.

If he likes to joke about his wife or children, not sparing their self-esteem, especially with outsiders, then here he is just stupid.

A well-mannered person is one who wants and knows how to reckon with others, it is one who is not only familiar with his own politeness and easy, but also pleasant. This is someone who is equally polite with both older and younger years and position. A well-educated person in all respects does not behave "loudly", saves time of others, strictly fulfills the promises given to others, does not matter, and is always the same – at home, at school, at the Institute, at work, in the store and on the bus.

The reader noticed, probably, that I address mainly to the man, to the head of the family. That's because a woman really needs to give way... not just at the door.

But a smart woman will easily understand what exactly needs to be done to always and gratefully accepting from a man the right given to her by nature, as little as possible to force a man to give her the championship. It's much harder! Therefore, nature has taken care that women in the mass of its (I'm not talking about exceptions) were endowed with a great sense of tact and greater natural politeness than men…

There are many books about "good manners." These books explain how to keep yourself in society, at home and at home, in the theater, at work, with older and younger, how to speak without insulting hearing, and dress without insulting the vision of others. But people, unfortunately, draw little from these books. This happens, I think, because good manners rarely explain why good manners are needed. It seems: to have good manners is false, boring, unnecessary. A man of good manners can actually cover up bad deeds.

Yes, good manners can be very external, but in General good manners are created by the experience of many generations and mark the centuries-old desire of people to be better, to live more comfortable and beautiful.
What is it? What is the basis of the guide to acquire good manners? Easy does it meeting the rules, "recipes" behavior, words that are hard to remember everything? At the heart of all good manners is care – care that a person does not interfere with a person that all together would feel good.

We must be able not to interfere with each other. So don't make any noise. The noise does not plug your ears – it is unlikely in all cases and possible. For example, at the table while eating. Therefore, do not slurp, do not put a fork loudly on the plate, with noise to draw in the soup, speak loudly at lunch or talk with your mouth full, so that the neighbors do not have fears. And don't put your elbows on the table – again so as not to disturb the neighbor. Be neatly dressed is necessary because this affects respect for others-to guests, to the owners or just to passers-by: you should not be disgusting to look at.

Do not bore the neighbors with continuous jokes, jokes and anecdotes, especially those that have already been told by someone to your listeners. You put students in an awkward position. Try not only to entertain others, but also to let others tell something.

Manners, clothing, gait, all behavior should be restrained and... the beautiful. For any beauty does not tire. She's "social." And so-called good manners always have a deep meaning. Do not think that good manners are only manners that is something superficial. By your behavior you reveal your essence.

You need to educate yourself not so much manners as what is expressed in manners, careful attitude to the world: to society, to nature, to animals and birds, to plants, to the beauty of the area, to the past of those places where you live, etc.it is Necessary not to remember hundreds of rules, but to remember one thing – the need to respect others. And if you have this and a little more resourcefulness, the manners themselves will come to you or, better to say, come to the memory of the rules of good behavior, the desire and ability to apply them.