When quarrels between spouses become almost a global epidemic, only a high dose of love can save the situation. There is a special recipe that brings love back into the life of the couple
WARNING: Conflicts between spouses is infectious! In the most serious way, it just works that way. You'll also find yourself occasionally nervous about your partner for no apparent reason. One moment everything is calm and the next moment the fuse suddenly jumps up, and let's fight. Before you understand what you are going through, you are already in the midst of a heated argument. The words come out of your mouth uncontrollably, and you do not know who is speaking from your throat and where the thoughts, the anger and the inevitable urge to fight have come from. You're right, it does not suit you, so why does it happen?
Infection factor: Crocheting. What it means? It is clear to us that we are influenced by everything that is happening around us. For example, if I see a romantic film, I immediately get into a kitsch mood and come to walk hand in hand with my lover toward the sunset. On the other hand, if I go out with a disgruntled girlfriend complaining about her husband doing nothing at home, I return home with a combat mood, and my husband's woe if I find a spoon in the sink.
There are times when it is clear to us how we are affected by a certain situation, but the effect we have on each other is much broader than we think. It turns out that marital conflicts are like a virus that passes from person to person. Although you will not find the "integration virus" in any medical book, but you can learn about it and how to deal with it specifically from the books of Kabbalah.
We live in a very special time, in a global age, integral or whatever you call it. We are all in a closed system, in a vast network of forces, thoughts, desires and impulses, all of which are included in all - it is the process of "integration". This means that each of us "sticks" to the feelings and thoughts of others and "infects" them. So even if you're not the kind of person who takes your soul out to your partner, and you're by no means a nervous type, it's very possible that some thought from this great web has snuck into you and made you behave in an atypical way.
How to avoid? There is no way to avoid in advance. This process of integration into other thoughts is a natural process that passes on everyone and can not be stopped. This is how we develop, become more complex people and discover the system of connections that binds us all.
So what if your relationship is not harmonious and ideal? There is nothing to be ashamed of or to try to avoid, only to be more aware of the process that we are going through and to treat it in a mature way. If your partner threw me a word out of place, it does not mean that it is personally directed against me and that it is a declaration of war.
How to treat? According to kabbala, no feeling should be erased, not even anger, jealousy, or hatred, because on these feelings we grow and develop. All we lack is a power of love that will overcome all negative emotions, and it also exists within the complex system in which we are, only need to demand to discover it.
Instead of sinking into the fights, we must learn how to absorb these problems and deal with them in a soft and pleasant way - to understand where everything comes from and to try to be patient and help each other.
All conflicts must be seen as disturbances that have a purpose: that we try together to overcome them. If both partners support one another with awareness and understanding, and build a common desire to discover a stronger power of love and giving, it turns out that even the bad things that are revealed on the way are only an opportunity to transcend them and move towards a happy and happy life. Good health!
