How to understand others
an introduction
It is well known that every human being has his or her own personality. Psychologists assure us that man is not born with a certain personality, but that the human personality is the interaction of certain genetic and environmental factors - regardless of the environment in which they are located, , And the interaction of man with his community to a large extent determines the person's style in society, these factors make the individual unique in his behavior, needs, and beliefs.
We, the human beings, differ in the level of our intelligence, the degree of our learning, our religious beliefs, our own experiences, and the social background. All of this determines our way of dealing with other people, so we must recognize that we are different in our understanding of things and our view of them. It is not necessarily that all who I know agree with me, so everyone has the right to disagree with us.
How to understand others
Psychologists say: "He who understands others has knowledge, who understands himself has wisdom." Dear reader, "It is one of the most difficult things to understand others, because people have different personalities. What works for someone does not necessarily benefit someone else, This is because everyone needs proof of their own persuasion. Every person has special convictions, as we discussed in the introduction to the article, so someone is completely and totally considered impossible, and impossible. There are some general rules for understanding people, and those who have this general understanding have a simple knowledge. .
First, before you understand others, you have to understand yourself. This is not simple. You just need to learn; learning leads to understanding, which leads to the right awareness, and good awareness leads to perception, which is one of the highest standards of human existence.
Understanding self
In three stages:
Understanding: It is specific to the mind, where the mind can understand how we installed the events and how we accepted them, and how we analyzed the effects of life and reflections, and that everything we see around us is a reflection of reality.
Consciousness: It is special for the heart, and this conscious that comes after understanding the course of things, where the man is aware of his message in this world, and the way of life.
Perception: It is a spiritual matter, the soul knows what is around it, and it is only - that understands anything that comes into it from any dimensions, time or place - that the soul realizes that the solution is one and its forms and data varied.
The reader may wonder, did the writer come out on the subject axis and be dismissed by his imagination? What entered this hollow philosophy by the question "How do I understand myself"? If you want a frank answer to your question, then you are in the right article. I will not lie to you with reflexive advice, or with words that tell you that you are confident of yourself, but you know within yourself that you You are not.
Many people do not have the first stage, so how to understand others if he does not understand the reality of himself! Let us give a quick example to understand this: if your brother or toddler is wrong with you, what will each of us react to? Emotion, and emotions, and then be your quick reaction through your anger, or sympathy with him, and here the mind acts by analyzing the situation, and try to accept or not accept the matter, and the heart is through the awareness of the matter of love and love and understanding, Good for this act, and that is part of our lives.
So if you understand yourself well, you will not have difficulty interacting with it positively and wisely, but if you are deficient in understanding yourself, any situation will develop to the worst, so we must understand ourselves well, they communicate with others, it is not possible that The conditions of understanding others, while I do not understand myself! That is why I have emphasized this important issue, before turning to the last part of the topic.
Understand others
An important question is: Why are you interested in understanding others? We are dealing with people in a bad and wrong way, so there is a clear aversion to either of us or of them. One of the most important reasons for misinterpretation of people, the self-distrust of self-confidence, It is when I think that Ayubi many, and look at others as full, has no defect! So this person does not feel confident when he is with people, and if he understands this person himself, and that he has some flaws, he can understand other people, and feel confident in himself in the presence of any stranger.
People have misunderstood, the impact of this understanding on his character, and his own self !, One of the main reasons people misunderstand correctly is that you judge them based on what you believe, not as they think they are. For example: If your confidence is weak, then you meet someone for the first time in your life, and from his behavior you are accused of being a sharp man, but it is not so! The person you met may be shy, and can not show his feelings from the first time !.
After explaining a lot of things about this important subject, which was necessary, we now come to answer the question "How to understand others" directly, and I think what I wrote in this article, has answered the question, but let us draw what we have reached In this article, the conclusion is summarized in the form of points, illustrating what formed on some.
What to do
You have to understand yourself well, and because you are a human being, others are like you. Also, if there are defects in you, there is one who has no defect. He is the God-in-law. You must understand this well. Many people do not depend on or deal with others when you judge someone to put what you think aside. The judgment is based on their circumstances, not on your circumstances, according to what he believes and what he sees not what you think and see.
If you understand that people are personalities, and each of them has disadvantages and advantages, and both of them make mistakes in places, and affect the positions, including the good, including the dirty, including the good, including the malignant, we can understand all people in general, and this in itself is not simple, because This leads to understanding yourself, gives you strong self-confidence, and finally understanding who is around you. This is a set of things that show the way to the person you should know. It is knowing people understand what makes you more weight in society and the nation in general. Man has to be wise in what he does and what he does.
By: Hasan Matar