Loving another person for most, appears to be an universal connection in the majority of the free world, at least it appears to be. Every society has its own romantic traditions, most intent on forming a lifelong loving relationship with another human. A bond that’s an intrinsic part of being an adult woman or man.
While being monogamous remains the end goal for most god fearing people, it’s found that attaining this ideal state isn’t that easy. The truth being, that humans aren’t chemically programmed to stay with the same human for their entire lives. This despite any customs or faith.
It no longer matters how a particular society happens to define holy matrimony, as there’s now approximately one half of all marriages today, regardless of beliefs, which now ends in divorce.
Love Hurts And Kind Of Sucks
It’s recognized that love can be as fragile and as cutting as glass, as it’s difficult to understand why a romantic relationship suddenly comes to an end, often becoming toxic.
For most, it can usually be isolated to one or a series of traumatic events or experiences. It's then a shock especially for the one who’s being dumped, that the relationship is finale.
The shock, the angst, the embarrassment, the residue that can result from a sudden tragic breakup, can at times take a lifetime to heal, to work through, to finally move on, but somehow, it does.
Fall Head First Out Of Love
So what is it that causes people to fall out of love. More importantly, how is it possible to move on, to grow, to regenerate after a relationship ends, after it comes to a halt.
It’s been known that humans have a built in mental mechanism in their brains once a relationship ends, capable of severing the emotional ties with someone. The process is known as “mate rejection,” which isn’t anything new and not a theory.
It’s found that there’s an instinct once a relationship is over, where the brain begins to prepare for a new one, while also reactivating the ability to reproduce again successfully.
There are cultures and religions in the world which allows for multiple marriages, even at the same time. The process of ending a marriage or marriages has proven to be difficult, this regardless of the times or beliefs, but it’s possible.
Even with casual relationships which doesn’t involve anything formal such being married, moving from one partner to another has proven to be a painful and tricky process, this especially for the one who’s been rejected.
The Difference Between Cats And Dogs
It’s not surprising when it comes to the differences in attitude between males and females after a breakup. This when it comes to mate rejection, this after it’s in motion.
When it comes to dealing with infidelity, both sexes will usually react polar differently, while also depending on how serious the infidelity is considered to be, this especially for the one being dumped.
Men are usually more sensitive, when it comes to the possibility of raising a child that’s not his, for instance. So as a result, they are less forgiving when it comes to sexual infidelity, much more than women are.
On the other hand, women find it more difficult to forgive emotional infidelity, such as their man falling in love or having an affair with another woman, potentially losing him when it comes to supporting her and their children.
How secure that the women is, also plays a role when it comes to how quickly she’ll get over a mate. If she is employed, wealthy, and can support herself, the decision to exit the relationship becomes easier, than for those who will be devastated financially after a difficult divorce.
My Chemical Romance
The actual chemical reaction when it comes to mate rejection, is thought to resemble a drug dependency withdrawal, as the process involves the gradual elimination of overcoming all the remnant feelings, while the brain prepares for the potential bonding to a new partner.
Once mate rejection takes place, this on autopilot, a part of the brain, the prefrontal cortex, begins the process of adjusting and then adopting to get ready to move on, this often after a period of grief.
This Is The End
Mate rejection is a natural reaction of the human brain, and not because of a religion or custom. For most relationships as a result, being with one person their entire lives is biologically implausible.
For those who still believes in the “til death do us part” pact, those who oblige and remain committed, it’s found that it’s more for personal or family reasons, than they remaining in love, while feeling empty.
Regardless of the measures which are taken to keep the relationship intact, this agreement of being with someone forever, is becoming exceedingly rare, this regardless of ones upbringing.
This even if the coping, the heartache, the disappointment can appear overwhelming. It’s our biological nature which dictates that we’re destined to overcome it.
One Sight Love Affair
It’s our society, religion, the need for security, or our moral upbringing, which dictates that we need to remain with one person our entire lives. It’s the heart and the brain that becomes strongly opposed to it, becomes allergic to the thought of being with that one person for life.
It’s thought that it violates the laws of human physics to remain intact with one person forever, as our spirits are more vagabond, wanting to wander from one experience to another, this in our quest to grow.
This is the reason why our brains are housed with the “mate rejection” response, and it’s an important biological function of we being human, and it shouldn’t be ignored.
There’s been enormous amounts of study put into romantic love. What remains to be understood are the reasons why people fall in and out of love, or why some bother to stay with each other for their entire lives.