Hello Fellow Steemians!
As a married attendant of your beautiful community, i dedicated myself to share interesting points of marriage for singly ones among us. Especially single males :) They should learn important points before get married, or they have to learn it with experience. I don't recommend that :)
Well, women are irresolute creatures. They practically seesaw between everything. Two dresses, picking a menu, even having a child. Having a child is a huge step, i accept it. But it's really easy to choose; either you want it or not. You shouldn't have them both because a baby can't exist while he doesn't exist :)
But women mind is a maze without exit. They put too fine a point on everything. They focusing too much on details yet they miss the main point. This is where male candidates of a marriage should step in :) Especially in child issue.
Think about something. It keeps puking, peing, pooing and crying. Not satisfied by anything but mom (or her breasts). Waking up in the middle of the night, can't been resign to anyone and still be loved so much.
Do you ready for this?
It's needs will come before anything you do previously. You won't go outside with your friends. You can't sit by hours in front of TV. You can't eat or sleep without distruption. You can't even have sex with your beloved wife.
Do you ready for this?
Well, if you're men, you either say yes or no. If you're women, you say yes and no. Let me explain this with my experience.
-Cihad, should we have a baby? We are about to be 27
-Yes honey, i'm well awared. But i don't think our financial position allowes us to have a baby.
-But my quality eggs are pouring every month. We don't have a quality baby
-Quality baby? My baby is not a brand or something.
-You understand what i mean. What if he/she has a health issue?
-OK, let me make some calculation first. Maybe we can try to make a baby in next year
-But, i don't feel myself ready to be a mother
-Well, we wait then.
-But, all mothers say they didn't feel ready to be mother when they have their baby
-It's their problem. We can wait, don't worry about "quality"
-But i want to be mother. I don't feel ready at the same time. I wish to dandle my child. But also don't know how to care about him. And you are not helping right now. Wait! Where are you going!
Don't mind about women. Leave them a little with their hesitations. They actually act like they need your help when they don't. If they are talking to you, asking your opinion but finding a pretext to all you suggestions, it means they actually fighting with their insights. So, leave them be. They will find their way.
On baby point, ask yourself (i'm talking about husbands) if you want to have a baby. Do you have enough funds and savings to guarantee your child a good future. When you ready, go and talk with your wife. Be sure that she still be in the same hesitations. Canvincing her would not be too hard, believe me.
I still don't have enough funds and don't want to have an un-planned baby. So i'm filling her mind with "we are not ready, we are still childs, how we can care with another one" kinds of shits. It's working :)
Hope this helps someone :) Have a wonderful day :)