It took me sometime before I understood what he was actually saying. I never knew it was such a great message and advice he was sharing until I took my time to listen to him carefully.
Now here are the words from the lyrics of Lucky Dube's song titled "It's not easy":
Lord have mercy
I remember the day I called mama on the telephone, I told her mama I'm getting married
I could hear her voice on the other side of the telephone she was smiling
And she asked me a question that I proudly answered, She said son did you take time to know her, I said mama she's the best
But today it hurts me so, To go back to mama and say mama I'm getting divorced..Oh I'm getting divorced
This choice I made didn't work out the way I thought it would, This choice I made, it hurts me so mama
This choice I made didn't work out the way I thought it would
This choice I made didn't work out the way I thought it would
This choice of mine Oh mama said to me
It's not easy to understand it son
But I hope you'll make it
You'll be happy again
I remember in church When the preacher-man read the scriptures you look so beautiful, so beautiful and so innocent, I did not know that behind that beauty lies the true colors that will destroy me in the near future
This choice I made didn't work out to be what I thought it would be
Oooh mama
This choice I made didn't work out the way I thought it would
Now I'm hurting,
I remember when I held you by the hand preacher-man read the scriptures putting words in your mouth, Maybe what the preacher-man said was not something that was within you, Now I know what they mean when they say Beautiful woman is another man's plaything
Oh Lord I'm hurting now
This choice I made didn't work out the way I thought it would, This choice I made, it hurts me so mama
This choice I made didn't work out the way I thought it would
This choice I made didn't work out the way I thought it would
This choice of mine Oh mama said to me
It's not easy to understand it son
But I hope you'll make it
You'll be happy again
He spoke about his marriage life and the kind of woman he chose to be his wife. Things didn't work out the way he thought it would. He thought as beautiful as the lady looked that is how her character was.
He then realises that marriage is something not easy that anyone should play with. The only way he thought he could deal with the situation was to go for divorce.
Actually I don't listen to reggae songs but personally I admire lucky Dube for the kind of wisdom he always share in his music. I believe this is a great message to all the young folks who are about to start the marriage journey.
The only problem that led to the challenges in the songwriter's marriage was the fact that he never took his time to know the kind of lady he married. All his focus was on beauty.
Marriage is a lifetime journey of no return, ones you are in you should be in for good. This is why you need to take your time to know the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. In the course of dating look out for things that could negatively impact the marriage and eventually to lead to divorce. Often times many people overlook bad attitudes of their partners thinking there will be changes ones they marry.I f you couldn't deal with the situation when dating you can't deal with it you marry.
Moreover our focus shouldn't be on beauty alone. Beauty is important but don't let it skip you that beauty fades away with time. If beauty is your prime focus in marrying a person then I'm sorry to let you know that you will be disappointed someday. Your grounds for marrying someone should go beyond what you see with your eyes.
I believe no one is born ugly, beauty always lies in the eyes of the beholder, character is more important, when beauty fades it is character that will sustain or keep the marriage. Look out for what you need and can make your life complete and fulfilled than just the things you want.
To those who are married I wish you success, peace and joy in your marriage and for those who are about to, take your time and pray about the person you want to marry and also to know him or her more before you proceed.