We all have it. The past has a way of influencing our future and messing up with our present, especially the negative ones. It robs us of the present as well as the future.
Those who waste today, lamenting yesterday, will definitely waste tomorrow, lamenting today.
The past sometimes hinder us, if we let it. It has a strong hold on us and most times it is a struggle to break free. The past brings a lot of fears, which hinders us from being productive. Fear is a perfect path to failure.
I love being practical. I won’t tell you it is so easy to wriggle your way off your past, no I won’t, but I would let you know it takes conscious effort to break free from it, and it is very possible. Time happens to everything.
Do not live in self-denial. Recognize the hold it has on you first. Only then can you know the way forward. They used to say, the day you recognize that you need help, that is when the healing process begins.
How do you let go when you are crumbling under the weight of the past? We all have different ways of dealing with hurt. We all have varying ways of which we let go. My own power has always been in the way I view things. I gradually started with a change of mindset.
I have come to realize that the past is nothing but the past, and that is where it belongs. It has no power to repeat itself again unless I let it. The past has no power, except the power I give to it. I choose to let it stay where it belongs; the past.
We cannot go back to make a brand new start, but we can always make a happy ending. There are some events we wish we could go back to change, and there are some that bring memories, but this post is aimed at those pasts that hold us down because they remind us of the mistakes we have made and the choices we got wrong.
Learn from the past, and try... I say...try to move on. You cannot stop a bird from flying over your head, but you can stop it from having a nest on your head. You can’t change the past unless you figure out time travel, but then it will still affect the present and rob you of the valuable lessons you have learned and the experiences you have gathered.
You are better than you were yesterday based on the choices you made yesterday, whether good or bad. Don’t live your life in pity and rob yourself of what life has to offer by clinging on to past pain; whether in wrong marital choices, business decisions, or career paths. Pick yourself up, and try again. In my tribe, they would say:
“The pig would get to its destination, it will only cause more noise”.
You will get there, but the journey of a thousand miles begins today. Let go of the past, its weight and baggage, pick the lessons from there and start all over again. I didn’t tell you it would be easy like I always say, but it would be worth it. Let go, you deserve to be happy. You won’t be the only one hurting when you hold onto your pain from the past, remember the lives you will hurt too afterward. Do it for you, do it for others, and let go.