We are all guilty of judging things from the surface. We see something and we just conclude that is how it is. While growing up, there was this song I learned of a movie, and it was in my local language. I hope I would be able to do justice to it by translating it as I am about to do, right now.
“I saw a luxurious car, with a rich man driving in it. I stood there and I pray to be as rich as him, and I spoke to my destiny, hoping to be exactly like that rich man, little did I know that some riches have trouble. I said my destiny should make me rich, so I can be like ‘so and so’, without knowing the troubles the person is passing through or has passed through. Riches sometimes come with doing the odds for some. See a house filled with riches, but then pain dwells. See a rich man’s house, filled with troubles.”
We often judge from the surface. We see someone driving a luxury car and we feel they are lucky. No, they are not. You have no idea how they suffered before they attained that height. You have no idea the sleepless nights they have had. You have no idea the hunger they suffered while growing up. Some of them didn’t have it easy, they walked and worked up to that height we so much desire right now.
We mostly judge everything from the surface. That’s just us sometimes. We see a man smiling, we assume he has everything going fine with him. We don’t have an idea all the things he has to put up with and the pain he is dealing with, buried deep down. We see couples going out, smiling. We generally assume they have a perfect marriage. We have no idea what goes on inside their closet. We see someone jumping up and down, we tend to assume he has that strength because he has eaten, which doesn’t necessarily mean that's so. He might not have tasted anything that day. He just chose to encourage himself and put up a bold front, because he doesn’t want a pity party, and because he has a better mindset. We usually don’t see the efforts they put in before they get to that point, all we see are the results, and that is all we use to judge the present.
It’s okay to be human, it’s even more okay to have our own opinion, but whatever it is that we desire, we should work towards it, rather than think others have it all together too. For you to know they don’t have it all together, ask them and they will tell you their stories.
We all have dreams, the problem is selling it. We all have stories, the problem is telling it.
As for them how they attained that height, then you would understand how many hurdles they crossed before getting there.
Even here on Steemit, I see people with higher reputation and I wonder when I would ever get to that point. I see people upvote others and I see the weight of it and I chuckle at me with shaking of the head in disbelief, asking when I will ever get there. What we need to know is that the journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step. Don’t worry, you will get there.
My friend, Jordan reminded me this morning that I now have a 57 reputation. I smiled and had that feeling of excitement inside me. If you asked me my story, I surely have a lot to share.
Instead of thinking others have it easy, know that they don’t. If you are still in doubt, ask them about their story and use it as a springboard to forge ahead. No one said it would be easy, but with dedication and persistence, it would totally worth it.
Thank you for your time.
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