Personal dilemmas and problems growing up at a young age can seem very easy to get through because you are more likely to ask for help or just not worry about it. If it isn’t literally effecting everyday activities....Then who cares, it'll go away. What most people end up differing from when faced with personal problems is asking for help and not worrying about the judgment that comes with sharing the problem, and having someone lucky enough to have supportive family or friends that will listen and be there to help.
More bullied and less fortunate people try to ignore the fact that the problem is getting worse, and not having the courage and support will only lead to a mindset saying you can get through this with no help because shit…..look how long you survived already with no repercussions.
What I see looking back in my past when I thought I didn’t need anyone's help to fix my problems because of the same mind frame. I realized in reality, carrying the problem effects me extremely in ways that changed me completely over time, not even realizing the incremental shifts in my way of thinking and perception on how I then started to deal with what was in front of me. The fear emotion started to play a roll in more things than I even realzied, and social anxiety begins to get worse. The desire to share and get close started to fade away because the problems that I didn't fix and try to get help with or talk about consumed me. The fear on that what would someone think of me, and I just felt weak honesty if I thought of talking to someone about a problem, and of course, the shame that comes with it all.
Almost not until I was 30 did I really actually have some sort of idea of what conscious was, and really trying to understand my thinking and emotions in a detailed manner that I could start actually trying to fix what was going on. The main things that helped me this far have been my son when he was born, reading, practicing any type of mediation or listening to music, and most importantly support, and sharing.
Mental awareness of how we react to what we feel is essential in a healthy mental life, and I know this now and still struggle to get it right but it's getting better.
I have a lot more to add/share about how I got to me and where I am at now, plus anything I have learned in hopes of helping anyone else that is struggling. I really like hearing other peoples stories and any mental practices and awareness that they discovered or used to help bypass challenges.