Okay, fine. You got me. Let me rephrase, I SURVIVE 10 HOURS OF LABOR !
To soon to be mothers, every labor varies. Different woman go through the stages differently. You may take mine as a guide but I won't assure you that it will be entirely same.
Some people had a smooth and fast labor, some people may have experienced difficulties. Whatever it is, don't take it to your heart when people start to comment. It can be quite annoying some times. First thing first, I am truly if this sound very disrespectful but most of the people who sort of offended me were actually the 'ELDERLY'.
Let me give you an example. I went through 10 hours of labor and 10 hours is counted 'LONG'. The top 3 hurtful comments that I've received are:-
- Your baby is not clever to push himself out.
- Your baby is very stubborn.
- You do not know how to give birth. Pushing is so easy, how can you not know ?
Honestly, I was very mad when I heard stuffs like this. But then, I chose to not hold against their words because I have a theory where 'SOME' old people have no idea what they're talking about. Plus I just gave birth, post-natal syndrome hit me real hard when I heard all these unpleasant comments.
Enough with the negative stuff. Childbirth supposed to be something happy. Right ? It's all about welcoming your bundle of joy. Let's begin !
I have 2 expected due dates because I went to 2 different doctors before I settle down with my gynae. The first doctor predicted it to be in the second week of August and the other doctor predicted it to be on the last week of August. My gynae on the other hand went ahead with the second doctor's prediction.
I GAVE BIRTH ON THE 11TH OF AUGUST
The first doctor wins the jackpot !
Anyway...
On the 9th of August, I've downloaded Pokemon-Go. It was a big hype back then. I dragged my friend to accompany me to hunt for Pokemons (she was a Pokemon-Go addict herself) and we were in the mall for about 7 hours or so. I've notified my friend, if my water bag were to break, quickly dragged me to the hospital next door.
To my Malaysian readers, I was at Sunway Pyramid and yes, the nearest hospital was Sunway Medical Centre. I could have gave birth in a hospital with Starbuck !
Onn the 10th of August, I went Pokemon hunting at close to 12am because I couldn't sleep. Came back at 12.30am which is already the 11th of August.
The reason why I included both 9th and 10th of August is because walking/exercising a lot affects the water bag. Since I'm already at 38 weeks (according to the second doctor), I may deliver anytime.
Back to my story. Like I've said in my first post, pregnant women tends to tinkle a lot. I am not lying when I've mentioned that I need to go to the loo every 20 minutes. This time, it's slightly different. As I lay on my bed, water begin to flow out. I assumed I did not clear my bladder properly so I quickly head to the toilet for the second time. I went back to bed again and water started to flow out once more. I head to the toilet and realize, I can't hold my bladder. As I look into the toilet bowl, the water is clear ! (Pregnant women urine tend to be yellow, which is why we have to go through urine test on every single visit that we have with the gynae).
I quickly alert my parents in-law and they told me to monitor myself to see if it's a false alarm. My husband went out during this incident, so yea. He wasn't there to witness me partially wetting our bed. * laughs *
Hub arrived home 30 minutes later and I was already snoozing away. My parents in-law came in and woke me up at 3am to go to the hospital. I was having a slight cramp around my uterus area. On a scale to 10, I would rate that pain maybe a 1 ?
I arrived the hospital at 3.30am, changed into a sassy looking gown where my butt can be exposed anytime. Here's a very very very and I mean VERY weird scenario. There's this midwife who looks like she's in her mid 50s (I assume she has been working for quite a long time) kept showing the other midwives my underwear.
'Tengok ! Dia punya panty sudah basah.'
Translation: Look ! Her panty is wet !
The other midwives show no expression at all. It's like... What's new ? We see this every day.
The midwife shoved a tube up my butthole and squeeze some sort of liquid in. In less than 5 minutes, I quickly rush to the toilet to get my business running so that I will not poop by accident as I'm pushing my baby out. After I'm done using the toilet, I continue laying on my bed and this other midwife came in and broke my water bag.
IT WAS HORRIBLE !
She forcefully shoved her finger in me to tear my water bag ! There's this tool which looks like a plastic hook, that is used to break the water bag and God knows why she use her fingers instead.
And the waiting game begin
At 6am I was dilated at 4cm. Then it begin to slow down. At 10am I was only dilated by another 2cm. * sigh * Thought it could have ended earlier. At 12pm, I felt super uncomfortable. Not because of the pain, the pain is actually quite similar to my regular menstrual cramp but just a tad bit more painful. The amount of pressure going on down there it's what causes the whole period to be very very VERY uncomfortable.
I could feel my boy is pushing himself down, and it was beyond my control. The midwives were checking on me every 15 minutes and kept asking me not to PUSH. I was quite pissed to be honest. I was induced at 4am and it's 12pm, my gynae hadn't arrived and the midwives asked me not to push. EXCUSE ME ! Shouldn't my gynae rushed his way to the hospital ? I can't possibly wait for him all day.
My gynae finally came at 2.15pm and guess what ? He scolded all the midwives for not notifying him. I was like, 'YOU DID NOT EVEN BOTHER CALLING MY GYNAE AND YOU'RE ASKING ME NOT TO PUSH ?!'. I could have deliver at 12pm !
Anyway, my gynae quickly cut my 'vajayjay' because I wasn't dilated fully and he could see my baby's head. With only 3 pushes and ZERO yelling, my boy came out at about 2.30pm.
My boy was born at a healthy weight of 2.9kg and hearing his cry is the most blissful thing ever.
Selfie while waiting in the labor room with my Hub sleeping right behind
First picture :)
Holding him for the first time. As you cans ee, I look very unhappy. Trust me when I tell you, my face felt like as if I just went for botox after going through with the intense labor cramp and pushing.
First family portrait :D
Mommy making milo for me. You can totally tell I am super exhausted from this picture. * laugh * Ahhhh... Such memories.
Mason's first day at home :)
About 3 days old. That's a Pikachu macaron.
2 weeks old. Awww... How time flies !
My boy is now 1 year and 2 months old :) Look at those cheeks !
He's pretty tall for his age. The last time he was measured which was about 2 months ago, he was 79cm.
Need to add up a little something that I've missed out. I went though labor without epidural, which is something Im very proud off :D It's definitely not easy but the pain was worth it !
I FEEL LIKE A SUPER MOM !