It can be the worst dilemma. You need a distraction from the anxiety,you’re to spend a night with a friend you haven’t seen in months and yet anxiety is pulling you back into the safety zone. Physical issues are heightened by the swirling of anxious and worrying feelings and slowly drain the energy from mind and body. The mind goes into over-drive,fearing the notion of being in an environment with strangers despite the presence of precious friends and a lack of control due to being in an unfamiliar environment.
However, we cannot allow anxiety to control our lives in an attempt to prevent bad or frightening things happening. We deserve to live and living involves working to master anxiety so we can enjoy all the wonderful people and experiences life has to offer. I often find that the thought of socialising is far worse than the time itself. I know some wonderful people and our time is always filled with love and laughter. I remind myself of times before which have provided some wonderful memories.
Anxiety for most is not only about socialising. Other issues like chronic pain and fatigue can mean it is a struggle to step out and “put on the mask” so issues don’t spill out and taint an evening,however, DID sometimes can enable you to do this with alter states taking over when required to manage pain and give you an energy boost.
When helping other I have found that drafting a plan for socialising always helps. I ensure to prompt sufferers to find something to aid with grounding on their persons,a smoothe stone,a soft bear,anything which can help ease the anxiety. If they are required take medication to take the edge of worrying and anxious feelings it is a good idea to write down thoughts before they leave the house. It sometimes helps a lot to get these feelings onto paper,clearing the mind a little so they can have a break and enjoy their night!