If you care about the consequences then does the reaction of others not influence what is best for you in terms of consequences?

If you start living life just to get accepted by others you soon start to losr your identity.

Does society allow for personal identity if it has a concept called morality which gets enforced by public opinion? It's true that an individual with no fear of the consequences can literally do whatever they feel like doing but an individual who seeks to gain as much pleasure from life with the least suffering, they might have to care about public opinion or even just the opinions of their significant others as a means of avoidance of suffering.

As I said in my post, there is a cost to ignoring the moral opinions of others. That cost is ultimately social exclusion, being shunned, losing reputation, etc. How do you determine when it's worth it to accept that cost?