Hello Steemians ☮
A series of disappointments can make it hard for us to feel good. However, you must always remember that you have control over your choices and make sure you appreciate the person you want to be, your personality, and your life. Sometimes you just have to change your point of view to be more satisfied with yourself and your life.
Strength the qualities you like about yourself.
We all need to remember the positive aspects of our personality, because it is easy to forget to give ourselves the recognition that we are entitled to. Are you a positive person? Are you a loving person? Do you appreciate your family and the people who are close to you? You could write this down in a diary.Treat yourself kindly.
To be satisfied with your life begins to be satisfied with yourself. It can easily happen that you focus on your negative rather than on your positive sides. Take 24 hours to make an experiment to find out how to treat yourself. Take notes of the things you say to yourself during the day. Look at the negative things you said at the end of the day. Make another list in which you reformulate these negative statements in a positive and honest way.
It could be, for example, that you forgot your keys and the first thing that goes through your head is how stupid you are. If you reformulate this, you can change that idea: "I'm not stupid, but I can make mistakes."Reward yourself.
Make sure you always take the time to treat you well. Life is a challenge. Looking after yourself will motivate you to be nicer to other people as well. The way we treat ourselves is often a reflection of how we treat others. Start with yourself, practice to be friendly to yourself every day, and it will be much easier for you to bring this kindness to others.
Just go to your favorite restaurant or eat your favorite dessert. It can also be as simple as going to the hairdresser or massaging you.Treat your body well.
To treat yourself with respect and caring makes it easier for you to be good to other people as well. Set a few simple goals for your body. You do not have to change your entire lifestyle, just make small changes to show you and your body that you're important.
If you do not get much exercise, set the goal to walk for at least ten minutes every day.
Look at your diet and think about simple changes you can make to feed you better. Suppose you eat more than three times a week fast food. You can set the goal to eat only once a week.
Make a list of nice things you can do for yourself.
Imagine this a bit like a treasure hunt. If you take your goals off, pay attention to how you feel at the end of the day. Did it feel good to be kind to someone else? Did you feel better about it?
You could, for example, set the goal of smiling at a strange person at least twice a day.
Another goal might be to find someone who needs help with a project, such as relocating or sweeping the home, offering help, or comforting someone who is passing through a difficult time.Engage in your community.
A great way to feel good and give others something to engage in your community. There are many people in the world who need help. There is nothing more enjoyable than knowing that you have helped someone who needs this help. Try to do some voluntary work in your community. For example, you could assist in facilities for the homeless, animal shelters, youth organizations or cooperatives.
Make realistic demands on yourself.
Part of it to feel good with yourself and your life is to have realistic expectations. The things that make you more demanding make you as much to the person you are, as to your positive qualities. Everyone has certain weaknesses, makes mistakes and sometimes has to deal with disappointments. To accept yourself as you are will help you feel better with yourself and your life.Make a list of your unique features.
You have no control over most of your physical qualities, so it is a great start to get more satisfied with yourself, get rid of unattainable ideals. Try to see yourself as the unique person you are. Write about your physical uniqueness and how it makes you yourself.
You can also make a collage with all the celebrities or people you admire, who use their uniqueness to their advantage.Try to write about your passions in your diary.
What you do professionally could also influence how you feel with yourself and your life. Write a diary about the things that interest you passionately. The more you balance your responsibilities and the things you really love, the more satisfied you will be with your life.
Maybe you like to do crazy movies. Maybe it's time to show it to your friends or publish it on Youtube.
Maybe motorcycles are your passion. If it is not already your job to repair motorcycles, you can make it your hobby and take the time to exercise it in your free time.Give your best and accept it.
Always do your best, but be aware that your best can not always lead to a perfect result. Nothing has to be perfect to be great. This is a great way to be satisfied with you. As long as you have done your best, you can be reassured.
Suppose you have to hold a presentation in the work, but you have woken up with a terrible cold. The presentation may not have gone as well as you had hoped because you did not feel very good. Instead of feeling bad about it, ask yourself honestly: have you given your best, according to circumstances - with a stuffy nose and a heavy head? If the answer is yes, then be satisfied and say goodbye to the expectation to give an absolutely perfect presentation. The presentation was perhaps very good, especially considering the circumstances.
To accept and let go is often easier said than done. The most important step here is to get rid of disappointment or frustration to give yourself a realistic look at things. You may worry that you will not be promoted, because you could not give a hundred percent during the presentation. However, an honest consideration of the situation will likely reveal that your promotion is related to your overall performance and is not tied to a single presentation. It would also mean that those present knew at the presentation that you were not doing well and will probably have more leniency with you than yourself.Learn from disappointments.
Stay happy. Instead of focusing on your disappointments, consider what you have learned from it and how you can use this new knowledge in the future.
Suppose you are in love with someone. You finally dared ask this person for a date and she or he says no. It's quite normal to be disappointed, but you have to wait to get a date just because you wanted it. Focus instead on how brave it was to ask someone for a date and look at it as an exercise for the next time.
Another example could be that you had a job interview. You had the feeling that the conversation went well, but you did not get the job. Let the expectation of getting the job go and look at it as a training for the next job interview.
Keep a diary of the things that were not quite as good as you had hoped so you could see why that was the case and how you can do different things in the future to make it work better. For example, you might not have accepted a job because of the bad salary, but overlooked that you had the opportunity to learn new skills. Instead of degrading yourself by past actions, focus on cooperating better in the future, persevering and appreciating newly acquired skills.Show gratitude.
To be grateful for everything in your life, including the challenges, is a great way to maintain a flexible and positive attitude. You can make a list of ten things every day for which you are grateful. If you feel like losing your courage, remember to list ten things that you are grateful for. Have this list always at hand, in the event that you are entangled in negative thoughts.
Goals on progress rather than on perfection.
To be happier with you and your life, it is important to remember that you and your life are constantly evolving. As long as you make progress or strive for it, you do the right thing for yourself and your life. The more you get motivated by your progress, the sooner you will feel that you deserve to feel good.
Remember the mantra every day, "Progress instead of perfection", if you find that helpful.Make a list of the features you'd like to have.
Write in your diary about the features that you consider valuable. Give yourself extra effort every day to live the values you would like to see in yourself and in your life. Knowing exactly how you want to become and progressing more important than perfection, you can develop self-esteem and satisfaction by working towards these goals.Avoid negative people.
Consider difficult relationships from a certain distance and determine whether these people are helpful or hindering for your ability to feel good. Try to build self-worth by surrounding yourself with people who believe in you, making you feel that you are valuable and build up. When you realize that you are surrounded by negative people, decide if they are really the right company for you. You can talk to some people about how they treat you and how you feel about it. It is up to you to decide which people you want to deal with. Building a solid network of support from positive people who are yours is a great way to become more self-assured and happy with your life.Praise your self.
Give yourself recognition and recognize all the positive qualities that you have. If your goal was to smile at two strange people and you did that, praise yourself for having spread positivity. Build yourself in a realistic, flexible way, by making sure you recognize the contribution you make to the world around you.
My Tips:
You can not always justify all people. Remember that you should have realistic expectations about yourself, and be aware when you have done your best.
Laugh often and loudly.
Lovely regards
Danyel
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