You step outside out of your house and the air outside has a  pleasant odor to it and the breeze touches your face and has disarrayed  your hair a little bit. You’re off to meet someone and you just happen  to gaze at yourself through the glare coming off a shop’s window pane  while hustling through the streets. You look at yourself and just think  how in the world has that dress seemingly got more tightened and now  it’s as if you were in a diving suit. 

 You look at passerby’s giving you a weird look from top to bottom and  you feel the need to rush to a nearby wash room and get straightened up  again! You spend a significant amount of time in front of the mirror and  still don’t feel ‘perfect’ once you’re done with it. You feel people  are talking and texting others’ about how disastrous you were in that  dress and with that tousled hair. If these things were a part of your  life until now, you might be just another victim of Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD)! 

 This isn’t something of a serious disease or disorder which can be  cured by medicines or therapies, all it needs is your efforts and time  for getting things back in order. Social anxiety is a  vermin that feeds on your confidence, sucking it out of your life and  making you increasingly self-conscious. This is a thing of the mind and  humans generally feel more concerned about what others are thinking  about them or what they might think of their actions and behavior. This somehow inculcates a sense of embarrassment into their minds  beforehand taking an action, and forces them to stop doing them. This  habit tends to drive the attention from their statements or talk and  gets more focused outwards to what others might be thinking about them. Words are left unsaid and things undone many a times due to this lack of confidence, which is being overshadowed by self-consciousness. 

 Do you also feel self conscious in public? Let’s find the solution

 The thing about this perception of events is a state of mind and it  could be easily monitored and kept in check by instilling a few habits  and changing the way you look outwards. Here are a few tips to help you  shift the perception and re-focus it outwards instead of focusing it on  yourself, making you less self-conscious and more confident. 

 Identifying your shortcomings is always the first step while working  on it. Try to take a look inwards, into your own self, and understand  when you are becoming self-conscious. Take note of the times when you  tend to become a little more self-conscious, and identify the pattern. People usually do not tend to get self-conscious all the time, monitor and identify the patterns. When do you tend to get more self-conscious or what is it that is  making you think more about yourself? Your hairstyle, your dressing,  walking style, doubts about intellectual abilities, etc. Find what is  making you more concerned about yourself and you are already halfway  there. Try to be a little more introspective and you will find your  moments of higher self-consciousness. 

         Realize that no one cares 

 Although it tends to come off as a bit harsh, but this is the truth.  The moment you tend to get a little more self-conscious and worry about  how you may look or how your actions might be perceived by someone,  realize the fact that no one cares! Realizing that no  one cares about how you look or what you do would make  you feel comfortable, less embarrassed and more confident. It is you who  is making all this stuff up in your mind of what the other person is  thinking about you. In fact, he was actually not thinking about you. Just because someone is looking at you doesn’t mean the person is  thinking and analyzing you, they’ve got more work to do. Just remember  that the amount of stuff you make up in your mind about how others  perceive you are a lot, and in fact, the person might not be even  noticing half of the stuff you made up yourself. So, just relax,  understand that not everyone is thinking about you or gossiping about  how you look, this will lift up your spotlight illusion and get to  reality. 

          Turn down the Spotlight 

 Once you come to the terms that many few of the people you meet daily  actually care about you or your looks, you need to turn down the  spotlight from yourself. When you are self-conscious you tend to take  everything personal and serious and get emotional quickly.  Suppose, you are at a diner with your friends and someone notices a zit  or a mark on your nose, you tend to immediately drop anything in hand,  try to reach out for it immediately and end up shattering your glass and  embarrassed. Here you become the spotlight and suddenly everything else fades away, making you a bit more self-conscious and devoid of confidence. Instead, try to take things slowly as they come, instead of rushing  through it. When someone says something about your looks or tries to  turn the spotlight towards you, try to keep your calm and take the action gracefully,  instead of reacting emotionally and with a zest. Stop making it all  about ‘me-me’, and half of your self-conscious issues will fade away  rapidly. 

 Manage your reactions 

 Being emotional is often perceived as ‘weak’ by the people  who are only capable of delivering sympathies. When around people like  these, try to remain calm and collected. Stop reacting to every little  thing immediately and remember the spotlight thing. Don’t make things  worse by letting your emotions out of control and becoming the center of  attraction of the event and being embarrassed later for what you’ve  done. Kill your inner critic and stop being too harshly judgmental of you.  It is not ones harsh words that hurt the most, but your reaction to it  matters the most. Try and take control of your response to stimuli. Once  you’re in control of it, you will never be again devoid of  self-confidence. Be happy in how you are, realize that no one’s perfect  and most importantly, be happy, that alone would be enough to manage  your train of thoughts from getting derailed by emotions. 

 Get away from negative people (Leave your friends if you have to) 

 If you’re doing all of these and still don’t manage to get your  self-conscious levels low, there might not be a problem with yourself,  but with the people you associate with. The five people you meet up with  the most have a significant effect on you and your way of thinking, so  choose them wisely; is a famous saying that just nails it perfectly.  There are people who will always make you feel embarrassed or  self-deteriorating even how hard you try. Stop being around them and  start associating yourself with people who make you feel good about  yourself and the way you are.