Nice story.. Not sure why you stopped detailing the second encounter, surely you experienced some different conflicts there.
There are quite a few modern day philosophers that talk about human contradictions like this, Stefan Molyneux is one of my favourites. Has helped me when going through something way more complicated than yours, complicated for me...
not my place to give you advice, I just want to go and say, if I was you depending on what intentions you have about these 2 guys, if none is serious, I wouldn't even bother thinking about telling them... if they find out they would just realise none of them meant anything more than that act to you, as long as you're ok with that, look forward, not back