When these Happens To You, You need to have a rethink!

There are just very many things in our lives that need to be thought over again. In this post therefore, I will be saying just very few of them and others left for the next post. Some of the cases I will be using as pointers are ones very much applicable to us and also surfaces at very important times in our lives.

SET TO BEGIN WITH ME?

Alright let's delve into the heart of this post. My goal at the end of writing is to have succeeded in writing a steemit post capable of helping to strengthen my readers' mind, give them reasons to have a rethink, make them ask themselves this question: IS IT REALLY WORTH IT IF I CONTINUE THIS WAY?

Hey! I got my lost writing cap back, this is why I am so sure you will get really motivated by this post.

FIRST POINTER/LIFE CASE

Very recently, I attended an interview for a bank job. I really got prepared to tackle every question that will possibly be thrown at me. Even though I have attended several other interviews in the past, this one seem to make me prepare far more than the past ones. Aside this, I felt I needed to double my effort since I have never been successful at job interviews. Oh! I lost the job again after the 2 hours long interview with the HR team of 5 members.

Having attended 6 job interviews, wasted a lot of my money meant for upkeep on transportation to those interview venues and even risked my life via traveling on bandits infested Nigerian roads, I had to sit down to rethink. I asked myself the hard but very true question I would want you also to ask yourself whenever you are faced with tough times like mine as explained above or when you have failed several times like Thomas Edison and Abraham Lincoln.

IS IT REALLY WORTH IT IF I CONTINUE THIS WAY?

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Very many of us know how that Lincoln, Edison and very many other inventors (scientists) and investors (business icons) failed, continued to fail and finally succeeded. These men were zealous and believed their dreams and aspirations are achievable which is in line with the saying:

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams

We had some other categories of inventors and investors who quit, left their investments or inventions for some other new grounds and succeeded beyond comprehension. These men believed they will not do well here and hence, decided to abandon those for newer things. It is never a crime to abandon those things you have always pursued with vigor and hope, but are not yielding anything. I pursued white collar jobs for three (3) years without success, then I decided to take up self business.

WHY YOU NEED A RETHINK

Very many times, we dissipate our energies where they will never be appreciated. I will never again do things, offer services, give values to those or things that will never appreciate me either monetarily or otherwise.

Continuing to do things that appreciate us less or that give one less joy is tantamount to killing oneself gradually.

You need a rethink because your life is important and must be preserved with all diligence

You need a rethink because you deserve to be motivated after all the efforts you have made

You need a rethink because you cannot afford to continue to fail, since you were never born a failure

You need a rethink because you were not born to be stagnant, you were programmed to move forward and moving very fast

Finally, you need a rethink because your strength, wisdom and gifts are needed somewhere else that is more productive

WHEN EXACTLY DO YOU NEED A RETHINK?

Hey! There in no time to delay. Just as my friend will put it:

There is no time to check time!

There is really no time to check time, you need to act now. You need to rethink when these happens:

When you have attempted it more than five (5) times without a reasonable success: Yea! I had to rethink after the sixth (6th) interviews without landing a job.

When you have options of other promising areas: Yea! in my case, I had the option of venturing into agriculture. I did ventured into agriculture, and today I am a fast growing farm contractor having a sealed contract with very many big farms in my locality

When you know for sure that age is never on your side: I had to weigh the options....Do I keep searching for jobs, attending interviews and never being able to land a job or do I switch to personal business. This rethink was made possible as I knew I was no longer getting younger and I will also like to raise a family soonest.

When the first two attempts seem to weary you with their results: Had I known, I would have left for agric after the first two attempts

WHY YOU NEED TO BE CAREFUL WHEN YOU RETHINK / PITFALLS TO AVOID

Sincerely you need to weigh the options that are dangling carelessly before you. Very many times, people tend to take wrong steps at this juncture which inadvertently land them in much more bigger troubles later.At this juncture, much patience, time, questions, researches and innate strengths and gifts need to be consulted before you take steps or make decisions.

Those days when I was faced with the same challenge which emanated from my failure to land a white collar job after attending series of unsuccessful interviews, I practiced this:

At this juncture, much patience, time, questions, researches and innate strengths and gifts need to be consulted before you take steps or make decisions.

Time: We all know you have tried several times and have failed hence the need to have a rethink, but you need to exercise caution by taking your time to weigh the options available to you. You need time to think clearly

T.I.M.E

T:Tame Your Appetite

Yea! The tendency and temptation to want to enjoy some things this period will come aggressively. At this period, you mind might begin to whisper to you....Why don't you try one more time because it is said that the salary over there is fat or the benefits inherent in that thing is huge, even in the spate of your continuous failures to get it right.

I:Ignore unwholesome advises

There has never been a time when friends begin to give wrong and unwholesome advises than this period. Some of your friends will definitely come in pretense to rightly advise you, but they are rarely advising you wrongly. You need to be wary of friends who at this juncture advise you to keep trying when your mind says "call it a quit". You need also to be wary of friends who asks you to call it a quit when your mind says "Try one last time"

M:Money must never rule you

Saint clement says:

If all you have is only measured monetarily or all you seldom think about is measured monetarily, you are miserable

Do not make Money the center, nucleus or major reason why you should rethink...It won't still work out if you eventually take another turn into something else.

E:Embark on a radical change if your reasons are strong

If after you are able to rethink through and your reasons are very cogent, please embark on that change. Do not waste one more minute. Wasting time is very dangerous.

Patience:

I have taken time to show you the inevitability of time as a crucial factor in your rethink process. Aside time, you need to be patient as every decision you rashly take, might be detrimental to your result at a later time.

Questions:

Hey! you have never been the only person to have been in this confused state. Others have also experienced it and you might just be lucky to find out that someone very close to you passed through it and succeeded. How do you want to know them if you keep mute? So go out there, meet with a couple of trustworthy persons and ask questions about your current dilemma.

Research:

This seem to be similar with the asking of question in that instead of questions around, you can decide to ask the internet. Make a little research online about people who had gone through this same thing.

Innate Gifts and strengths:

At this point in our lives, we tend to forget that we were programmed with uniqueness. This is natural as situation makes us to easily forget ourselves. Look within, harness those God given gifts together and think to launch into something more productive or into a sector where you will be better appreciated.

So therefore, what exactly am I suggesting you do now?

WHEN EVERY OTHER THING HAS FAILED, YOUR PERSONALLY GROWN BUSINESS SHOULD NOT FAIL

My senses seemed to have been lost until I heard those words "sorry, you did not meet our requirement'. At first I though I heard those words in my dreamland...(hahahahha).....

Not again I whispered to myself. Aside whispering those words to myself, I also whispered to myself "This will be the last time I will sit before an interviewing panel. Just as one of my friends will put it:

If your class is too high, I will change my school !

Getting a job seemed to me a daunting task after attending 6 interviews without success. I finally changed my school as presented in the above quote. My new school is SELF BUSINESS.

My business has never known a defeat since starting out. This is opposed to seeking to work for someone wherein I got the highest heartache in the history of my life.