Many a times you hear that in order for your relationship to work you must constantly work on it, and most of the time the question is just how much work do you need to put in, just to ensure that you two love birds don’t get bored with each other.
All relationships need to have some sort of knowledge, for example how to be honest and talk with respect to each other. You must be able to control feelings such as anger and thus place your relationship in a safe and honest place. A couple should also know when, such as a good time and place to discuss important conversations and know when to stop damaging or insulting conversations thus not bringing embarrassment to you both. Just do not start to bluntly argue over small things in a public place.
Remember we were not born with the know-how manual or taught in school how to be compromising in relationships. It is something we learn over time by ourselves. If you just end a relationship without truly tackling the problems and try to resolve them, these relationship destroying patters will just follow you to the next person and then to another. Moreover, if you just end your relationship without working on it, you will always feel that it was never resolved. You might even feel spiteful that you did not try harder to make it work. Sometimes you may even think, “if I knew then what I know now, would I have done it otherwise”. What if?
That is the reason why your relationships might fail. The possibilities is like never before to start and work on your relationship. Do not run away; rather find solutions to make it work. Find out where the problem lies, never try to change another person but first try to change yourself. In addition, if your partner really value your relationship, he or she will want to change with you for the better of wanting to save your relationship. Some might even say that a relationship is an ever working and learning experience. But it is worth well every time and all the time. Love each other always, and all the time.
Andrew Clayton