I am of the opinion that all men were born with difference in their personality matrix, these difference which make some almost faultlessly good while some seem like the devil could learn a thing or two from them.
In biology, we were made to believe that the performance of an offspring largely depended on his genetic makeup and his environment. How then do you expect an individual who comes from a hostile background to be totally gentle? People often compare themselves with others and sometimes compare certain people with others without realizing that no two individuals are expected to behave the same way.

An individual might be misunderstood and underperform because unrealistic expectations might have been set for such a person due to the belief the everyone must conform to a general rule. What some also fail to get is that although certain societies or places require a certain level of standard to belong, but that is the reason why everyone cannot belong to such category: we are not the same.

To further illustrate, do you know why some people like soccer while other might prefer porn and some will opt for porn? It is because we have these differences in our personality matrix. Even Biblically, the Israelites were asked to “choose this day whom YOU will serve” because it was evident each man is responsible for his conduct and should never be forcefully coerced into following a certain path.
We are not the same thing. Two men might train the same amount of hours for an event, yet one will lose. Two individuals might read for the same amount of hours yet one will excel more than the other, it is because of the differences I have pinpointed from the very beginning if my post.

These differences do not mean certain individuals cannot excel, it means they have to put in extra effort, conscious effort to be on top of their game. I knew of a child who had difficulties learning, the child found the whole learning experience terrible because frustration, beating and the insults were his regular customers because of his learning disadvantage. The parents wanted to give up on the child, I asked them to put in extra efforts for the child by getting a tutor and encouraging the child to see the fun in studying.

Of course the growth magic didn’t just happen overnight , but with consistency, the child eventually picked up and right now the child is doing fine. The point there is never expect others to conform to a so called general standard. People will eventually get it or get there, just not how you would expect it.
I remember a time in Nigeria where being predominantly left handed was considered a defect…lol. Understand that no two fingers are equal and respect that.