Alot People keep wondering why every relationship looks so great at the beginning, the passion is so intense and the couples are so fond of each other but after some weeks, months and years it becomes a different story entirely, the love is replaced with hate and friendship is sometimes replaced with fighting and arguments.
A happy life has to do with the quality of your relationship with your sweetheart. With so much work that is put in to them, relationships are difficult to lose. This trend of relationships starting off well but crashing later has made many marriages to end in divorce, so many engagements to be called off and so many relationships to falter with time and the best reason to give as to why relationships start well and don’t continue so is the fact that couples stop doing what they used to do previously when the relationship started, that’s the major reason relationships turns sour no matter how sweet it started, and it could be different things for different relationships.
What are some of the major causes? Below are six reasons why relationships fail:
**Low self-esteem
For both partners to feel valued and secure in a relationship, they both need to have self-esteem and feel secure with who they are. When a person has low self-esteem, they depend on a relationship for security, which can backfire and lead to doubt. Having confidence in yourself and in your significant other is the healthiest thing you can do for your relationship.
**Selfishness
Selfishness is also another relationship killer; selfishness is what would make one cheat on his partner; selfishness is what leads to misunderstanding and quarrels in relationships; thinking of yourself and yourself alone is selfishness, selfishness occurs in different ways in relationships, and it sinks the ship of relationship gradually and for a relationship to forever remain sweet, selfishness should be far from it, and by selfishness I mean selfishness of the mind
**Communication Issues
This is a big one. Numerous studies have identified communication (or a lack thereof) as one of the top reasons for couples therapy, as well as one of the top reasons for break-up and divorce .
Dr. John Gottman of the University of Washington, a foremost expert on couples studies, concluded after over twenty years of research that the single, best predictor of divorce is when one or both partners show contempt in the relationship.
Contempt, the opposite of respect, is often expressed via negative judgment, criticism, or sarcasm regarding the worth of an individual. In communication studies, this is known as being “tough on the person, soft on the issue”. Contemptuous communication works like poison – it destroys the health and well-being of a romantic relationship.
**Not putting your relationship first
Society doesn’t teach us to value our relationships or about the daily commitment that healthy relationships require. Sometimes our careers and our kids take the lead and our relationships come third, fourth, or even tenth on the list of obligations.
Relationships take quality time and commitment. For example, if you stop having sex, the desire to will completely fade, or if you stop talking about your hopes and dreams with your spouse, you will grow further apart.Just like with most things in life, you receive what you give.
**Money
Money by itself isn’t going to break up a relationship, but how both of you manage it will. Couples who fight over their finances and degrade one another on how their expenses are used are setting their relationships up for failure. If one partner blames the other for debts or for not pulling their weight, anger, blame and resentment can start to settle in.
Relationships are complicated, but they also evolve. Sure, all these 7 reasons by can bring a relationship to a end, but at the same time they can also be avoided with awareness and a desire to do better.
**Infidelity
This one is obvious…