I grew up in an old farm house, in a tiny village in central Finland, with my parents and two younger siblings, and my grandmother from fathers side until I was 5-years-old, then she moved next door. My mother was, and technically is, a stay-at-home mom, the most natural thing a woman can be in my opinion. My childhood was happy, healthy and I was content, most of that I credit to my parents fulfilling their roles as traditional stay-at-home mom, and dad being the sole provider.
These days the western world is all about female CEOs, buildying careers, making moves and doing anything a man used to do, including fucking the women too. I am not hating on females who want to build a succesful career and be in leadership roles, nor am I hating on gays, but I am guestioning if it is really what most females need and want. I think the media is playing a huge role in making women pursue careers, instead of making babies and rasing them.
Why is this? What is the benefit of it?
I wonder what is the goal with pushing women out of the kitchen and into the offices. I would argue that equality is not the reason, because women in my opinion had it far better before than they do now. Is it to control the overpopulated world? Is it to lessen the pressure on men to be the sole provider for their family? What is the benefit of women having fewer children and at a much older age than a century ago? What good does it do to push women to work outside of the family home and if they have babies, putting them into daycare, to be raised up by a stranger from young age. Let me know what you think about this.
From a biological point of view, women are made to bare children and nurture them into healthy adults. Men are made to spread their seed and protect their offsprings and females. Our bodies serve a purpose and disrupting that with hormones and social construct makes the world go upside down in my opinion. I was taking hormonal birth control for years and I can’t even know yet the full extent of how much that fucked me up. I have also done a fair amount of research into how harmful it is to female health, and to everyones health when it gets to our water supply. Why do we fight nature? In the end, nature will prevail, we might not.
I’m not saying that gender roles in the family have to be completely black and white, not at all, but in general, I vote for the traditional model of women taking care of the family at home, and men bringing home the bacon.
I don’t think every women should be a stay-at-home mom, or mom at all, but I think it comes far more naturally to most of us than working as a head of marketing department in a global company. Not to forget the happiness aspect, are women really more happy buyilding careers than as raising their children at home? And what about the children they have, are they happier and better off being raised in day-care and school, rather than by their mom?
I am of course not a scientist or don’t have a masters degree in gender studies, this is merely how I see the world. If you disagree with me, you can ignore the parts about our natural roles, and consentrate on the parts where I talk about what I want in life.
Being a strong independent woman makes me miserable
You might know that I have a tattoo that says ”I should be in the kitchen” which is only partly because I used to be a chef, and more so my world view. What makes me the most happiest and content in life is to take care of my family at home. I don’t have children, yet, but I know it is what I want. I love nothing more than cooking healthy and versatile meals for my loved ones, doing laundry and keeping the house in check to make sure my family has what they need to go about their day. When ever I visit my birth home, I always cook for my family and I’m very happy doing so, and I know they appreciate it. If I was a nine to five monday to friday working woman and trying to raise a family at the same time, I believe there is no way I could excell in both aspects of life.
I’m sorry (not at all sorry to be honest) that I can’t fit into the new female role that is pushed to us these days in the media. I don’t want to build a career and have a baby in my late 30s, to only stay at home for a year and then throw the toddler into daycare and me going back to my career. That sounds horrible and cruel to all parties involved.
This is not some new revolution I’m having about my life as I get older, it’s something I have always wanted really, actually the only thing I have ever truly wanted. Media, friends, men and women both, western society as a whole have tried to beat it out of me but no, I ain’t buying it. I know what I want. Will I get it, I don’t know, but I will try.