Do you know you can solve the world's most pressing needs and problems? Do you believe that is possible?
A friend of mine came back to tell me she couldn't date a guy she had crushed on for almost a year. I was shocked. I knew how much she talked about him. Especially how much she vowed to date him if he ever asked her out. They met, got talking, had dinner, then one morning she chatted me up and broke the news.
Her reason?
"This guy is half baked jor. All that packaging, can you believe this guy hasn't washed his boxers since God knows when. His underwear is brown and his armpit is smelly, brown and bushy."
Trust me, I quickly teased her about his pink lips, curly hair, six packs and good work that got her drooling in the first place.
With disappointment she replied, "He is not a total package, all the packaging na face value."
This is why most marriages/relationship fail. I didn't need to ask my friend if she was in bed with him, after just a week of friendship. Believe me, it doesn't take a year to truly know someone, but it is wrong not to try, else you'll start what you can't finish.
Appearance isn't reality. There is no adequate knowledge. You'll never know what's key to your life if you don't ask the right questions. Things aren't always the way they seem.
Businesses fail because regardless of adequate capital, the entrepreneur has inadequate knowledge about the scheme. People get lost because they have a good idea of their destination but not the route that leads there. Hearts are broken every day because people never bother about compatibility; they care more about irrelevancies like balling hard.
People fail examinations because they have beautiful textbooks but don't bother to know what is inside. A lot of things go wrong when you don't attempt to know, you'll never even understand.
Knowing isn't a general process. For different people it takes different process and periods of time.
You just have to be sure of the learning style that soothes you better. Gather adequate information and use it to your advantage. Failure only occurs in the absence of knowledge.
You'll never have the right answers if you don't ask necessary questions. If my friend had asked the right questions, maybe the guy would have made the attempt to be better. You can't change anybody, but somebody can change for you. You just have to try to know better, knowledge doesn't hurt, only gossip does.