As everybody knows, life can be quite surprising. So surprising as some people’s attitudes are. If you didn’t know, you are living near ghouls! Disguised ghouls, that is. They come dressed as neighbors, friends, relatives (closed or removed ones, depending on the context), colleagues and so on and so forth. They are so well disguised that when you are betrayed, you just feel flabbergasted of how come that particular individual, whom you’ve helped, has done this to you. If you are still wondering why you shouldn’t trust people, keep on reading.
While you are reading, let’s listen some music. I'm sure it will be more relaxing.
A great philosopher, named Friedrich Nietzsche, has an excellent quote:
"I am not mad because you have lied to me. I am mad because from now on I cannot trust you anymore."
So what do you understand from this? Is it ok to fully trust people?
Man’s character
It’s in man’s nature to be sort of slippery - he shuffles as it fits him best. When you have the most trust in him, he simply mesmerizes you by selling you when you least expect it, he rounds on you when this doesn’t even passes through your mind, when you are down, he just forgets about you and many other things which you may didn’t have the bad luck to deal with. This means you should always carefully think things through so that you’ll be prepared for what might happen.
Trustworthiness is relative. Everything is possible, that is. The godfather can get all intimate with the god daughter or the god son with the godmother, best friends fight due to their wives…and the list can go on and on.
Recently, something happened to me at work. When you get promoted, most likely you’ll be envied by others. And what does this envy seeds? It seeds hate and, as one of my friends used to say, “spleens”. Some people would do anything just to make sure that you are down. Usually, men have the tendency to harm you if you represent a threat to them. This threat I’m talking about is not something to directly hit them. Even the simple fact that you are more capable than they are, can make them feel uncomfortable.
There will be moments when you’ll make mistakes or you’ll become broke. The majority of us get to deal with this at some point or another. I really don’t think that there is someone not to have dealt with such situation. In those moments, everybody will just disappear like cockroaches do when you turn on the light. They will most probably say “Leave him! Fuck him! Sure enough that this would happen to him!”
If you are lucky enough, maybe you’ll have friends to support you, but never rely on others’ pity! You should be the only one to figure out how to get out of this deadlock. Without relying on anybody, without trusting nobody. It is most advisable that you do not confess to nobody. Your stuff should only be known by your family. Or in some circumstances, it is most recommended that only you know about them. Life will surely show you this!
Trusting people
It is not ok to trust people! Trusting people can be painful. It is painful because the consequences can be quite surprising. My dad once said: “My boy, don’t trust not even your own self! Because there is a chance that you may say something now and after just half an hour you’ll say something else.” And he never said this with any hate or incrimination, like I was some kind of a nutty. He was only telling me this like “everybody is the same”, each cares for its own business. If at some point you figure out that your good is somewhere else, you change your mind. And this is nothing to blame yourself with. It is not wrong to wish for your own sake’s wellness. It is wrong indeed to do harm while searching for your good!
I have some “friends” who talk with me and afterwards, when they stop talking with me, they start talking about me and about all they previously talked about with me. I also have other such “friends” who only take advantage of others’ kindness just to get a cigar. I am surrounded by people who can’t wait for me to mess it up just to charge me or to at least tell me off to someone who could throw the book on me. I have by my side so many benevolent individuals who only feed themselves with gossip…I also have many acquaintances who are constantly working against me. And you know what’s even worse? Some of them are really close to me. They are even blood relatives. But I believe I’m not the only one going through this. Anyway, the good part is that life teaches you how to track such people down- how to reveal their true color.
I have met in my life such special specimens. They coined things and said things just to denigrate you- so that people think you are a giant fool and everything you do is just a total mess. Oh my God, what people, what scams, what hangdogs! And to make matters worse, in your face they were all like best friends, the most understandable partners ever. Of course, they would never admit to have said such things about you! But this is the humankind! Notorious bitches!
It is best advisable to not get surprised by anything. It is better to expect everything. Some, for instance, have went through strong shocks when getting some news. That is why it is better to not waste so much energy and to take life exactly how it is. With the bad and as well with the good.
You can have friends! I’m not saying you can’t! But it is best to keep for yourself the most intimate secrets. Or at least for you and your family. And that’s it! In other circumstances you might get manipulated…
Life can be beautiful without having to trust people. The less you give a fuck, by being ready for everything, the simpler, more beautiful and healthier your life will be.
“Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence.” - George Washington
