You’ve got the girl. You’re not dating anymore, you’re in a full blown relationship and it feels good. If you want to be the ultimate boyfriend, you need to let go of any bullshit behaviour where you think it’s cool to keep us on our toes, be vague or noncommittal. Because here’s the thing if you actually like us, why don’t you just make it obvious so no one’s guessing or wondering Where they stand all the time?
Do pay attention to what we’re thinking and feeling.
The longer you pretend not to notice our ‘mood’, the worse they become and the bigger price you’ll pay.
Don’t send out mixed messages.
Seriously, who has time? If you like us, just tell us. Don't send out mixed messages. Seriously, who has time? If you like us, just tell us.
Do flirt with us on text.
Send us a message when we’re at work telling us how flt we looked when we got out of the shower. It’s basically all-day foreplay.
Don't just buy us things on our birthday.
You don’t need to buy us shoes for no reason, but nipping to Tesco and coming back with a Wispa and a magazine is most girls’ idea of romance.
Do things separately.
The best relationships are ones where you do things with other people and aren’t in each other’s pocket the whole time. If not, you’ll only have washing up and MasterChef to talk about two years in.
Do be honest if you're struggling.
Holding back, being distant or snapping at each other if there’s something going on is not good. Be open and talk about things. It’s OK to be vulnerable.
Don't belittle each other's problems.
Listen, give advice and never dismiss them or accuse the other of over-reacting to anything.
Don’t take her body for granted.
Be obsessed with us. We want a man who can’t keep his hands off us.
THE BEST IS YET TO COME...
You want to be happy, right? And you’d quite like to be a husband and have kids one day too, right? Or at least get a dog and buy a house with someone? So really all you have to do is try really hard to be a good boyfriend, and be honest with us. If you like us in the beginning, tell us. And once you have us, don’t just tell us, Show us. We want a man who makes us feel secure and loved, who looks after us, but who lets us be ourselves and who has our backs no matter what. Obviously it helps if you’re good in bed, but generally if you love someone and you make time for each other and prioritise sex, you’re going to ace it in the bedroom department anyway.
I know you’ve got what it takes to make this year, the year you achieve your PB in all areas of dating and relationships.
And everyone loves a winner.
Thanks for reading and have a good day / night!