I was checking out the blog of a new user , when I saw she shared this vid.
You can see the post here, but it doesn't say anything other than link to the vid.
I don't want to condemn any of them.
We're all just living on this rock, trying to survive, and deal with our emotions and hormones. It sucks! It's horrible! It's literally unbearable at times.
It's easy to talk negatively about sex workers. People always do it. When I see this though, I think about them just trying to make money to survive in the world. This world isn't perfect. You need to constantly work to trade for food, clothing, and a place to live. It's not like before, where you could forage for food. People have laid claim to every morsel of land. You have to work every day and struggle to survive sometimes.
So these rich foreigners come, and maybe they're lonely, maybe they aren't so good at finding someone. Maybe they just want to have sex and aren't so good at picking up women. Whatever the reason, they have money, and these sex workers want it. I don't feel it's right to condemn either of them for that action. It's hard being human.
Then some of them father children. Our social constructs say that a father is supposed to stick around and support their children, and the mother. A look at history shows they don't always do though. Clearly, not all males have this drive to care for their young. So yet again, I feel hesitant to condemn them. I would rather praise the ones that choose to stay, or even just help out financially. Even the asshole that only helped out a little every month, at least he did help out that little, and I thank him for that. I don't give him that much thanks though, as it wasn't much, but it was something.
Not everyone was made to be a parent.
Society pressures us all to be parents, whether or not we have had children, but the sad fact is that not all of us are cut out for it. We can try, and many of us do, but some really suck at it. We're the only option for our kids though. If we can't cut it, they may end up suffering more, as a foster child.
Condemning them for their actions does nothing.
We can choose to condemn these parents for doing what humans have done for our entire existence, have sex, and have children, but it doesn't solve the problem. The sheer fact that the fathers abandoned them lends to the idea that perhaps they really aren't cut out to be parents. Why do we not condemn society for not doing anything about the suffering of the masses?
Condemning them doesn't solve the problem anyway. We can arrest the sex workers for selling their bodies, but that doesn't solve the problem. We can arrest the clients and fine them for their actions, but that's likely just an excuse for the police to make money. So what do we do?
Try to solve the problem, rather than blaming people and punishing them.
We have these kids that need to be taken care of, and parents that are struggling to do so. The children of sex workers aren't the only ones suffering. This documentary just shined a light on them. We as a society need to band together, to take care of us all. It's a lot easier if we work together.
You can argue against red tape, and bureaucracy, and socialism, but I think most will realize that it sucks, and something has to be done. We have to work together to solve society's problems. Whether that means providing food for the hungry, or caregivers for children, or an opportunity for a child to learn, to become something more. We have to stop just complaining about the problems, and work together to solve them.
Why can't we give the poor permission to use the land they need?
We have land all over that people could farm on, but we have this crazy level of permissions that we have to have to do so. Someone claimed the land hundreds of years ago, then gave permission to use it to another, who gave it to another, etc. Maybe it's time to set aside some of that land again for use by the general public, to farm, and raise food for the poor. The poor need food and many would be willing to work for it. Why not let them farm it themselves, and teach them how?
Why can't people work together?
I almost feel like our societal images of the way things should be gets in the way of doing things in a way that's beneficial to all. We have this idea of a family unit being a mother and a father taking care of a child. Not everyone has a mother and a father though. Rather than letting those few suffer more hardship, why can't we work together? I feel like if we all banded together instead, we wouldn't have so much suffering.
Do we need to create a new fiction?
We have these concepts of things that we have created. Governments, family units, child care services, are all fictions that we have created. It almost seems like we have to create something new, so we have a concept of what we should do. Everyone just working together to care for one another doesn't seem to work unless we have some kind of guidelines of what people should do, so people have a clear set of rules of what they are supposed to do.
So, do we need to create community centers where people can go to eat, with food and cooking provided by members, and places to take their children, without having to pay, so they can work? What kind of fiction do we need to create to get it so people aren't suffering so much?