It's very simple....
All nigerian females wants to feel among...
They all want to belong, want to follow guys with swag and all....
At the early stage of a lady.... I mean an African lady..... Her parents will always try to guide her... Show her how to manage her life....
One mistake I think parents make is that they get over protective with their female ladies and leave the guys to explore....
Females/Ladies also needs to see the world.... they need to understand life, they need to be enlighten on what to do depending on how it affects them....
For example; a girl that has always been caged right from birth till she became eighteen years old.... She doesn't know what it means for a lady to say no or yes to a guy.... When to and when not to....
I believe parents should let their kids get exposed and make them understand life as it is....
Make them know that they will be approached... And teach them how to tackle that.... They don't have to just reply every one that approaches them rudely..... And most importantly they also needs to be taught manners...
They should be guided on how to deal with their social lives so they don't just miss opportunities thinking they are being classic and moderate/they are minding their business....etc.
Some people needs to be given audience regardless of the way they approach you....
What I also observe is this....
When this female kids that are unexposed grow and they gain admission into the higher institution...They begin to meet friends; Peer group that will teach them what they should have been taught by their parents..... The friends will teach them, but in a wrong manner....
They serve as bad influence.... In the sense that they advice her.... Telling her the rights and the wrongs.... They make the wrongs the right and the right thing wrong... This will be very cool to any young lady especially for those who haven't seen even a bit about life....
For instance they'll tell her if she doesn't follow every man that approaches her... She's a fool, she is a kid in a grown up body... I mean no female will want to hear that...she will want to know what to do and how to do, in other to also become a big girl.... Like every other lady of her age.... She wants to feel among, also want to belong... That makes it easy for her friends to influence her badly.... They start to go to clubs.... Not just for clubbing, but to go home with men.... Approach rich men with an agreement of a certain amount if they want to have sexual intercourse with them....
The unbelievable fact is that they later become the pro and still look and act very innocent when they go home on a holiday....
Now see into this....
If they have been taught or guided how to manage their lives.... They already know what they need to do and when they need to do and what they need not to do.... Where they need to go and where not to go....
They already Understand life.... They experienced it.... They know the bitter and sweet part of it... They know the consequences of what ever act they take, its now left for them to decide which path to follow compared to a female kid who her parents hide all sorts of things she will eventually get to know when she has the freedom she deserves....
Another thing is Sex education....
Parental education matters to kids a lot... It does a lot in a females life especially... Most kids stick to the saying "My father/My mother said"...
This believe alone helps kids a lot, even till they grow and get married....
The believe of seeing every thing your parent say as genuine....
Be wise...
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