( source: https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319)
Not just dare, i triple dog dare you to implement these four life changing agreements into your life. One at a time, as they are rather four journeys to imprint into your thinking mind.
In "The Four Agreements" a powerful yet simple book, Don Miguel Ruiz gives us four concrete agreements to make with ourselves. Four might seem like a small number but each of these agreements takes time and incredible focus to perfect, This is not to say that I believe that anything is ever perfected. That being said, these agreements, without a doubt, will change your world and how you process things, instantaneously.
without further ado, let me introduce you to these beautiful agreements to live by.
- BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
- DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
- DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
- ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
Now to elaborate further...
BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
This does not mean tell the truth, (although truth telling is an important part of the growing process). What this does mean, is choose your words wisely. The world is made up of vibrations, and we are in tune with the things that we vibrate on the same frequency of. Words are vibrations, and when we speak them they leave our lips to venture out into the world in which we birthed them. Vibrations are real and have real results, all things vibrate. Our words are weighed in energy, everything that we say, we create. Think about what you talk and think about on a daily basis, would you still say the things you do if you knew that they were creating your world? Well they are. With every word we speak we either curse ourselves or charm ourselves. Take care that you are not cursing yourself with negative self talk, rather charm yourself with positive, loving, inspirational words. This also goes to say that you can accidentally charm or curse others as well. Sometimes we get caught up in feelings and say things that we do not mean. Take special care to make sure that you are not spitting curses into being upon people that you love in the midst of a heated moment. Accomplishing this is no small feat, It will take dedication and wolf like stalking of your thoughts and words. True self discipline is needed. This is a rewiring of your brain and will take some time to get good at, don't give up if you find yourself speaking curses and thinking negatively often. That just shows how much you need this practice in your life. When you find yourself thinking these not so charming thoughts, don't beat yourself up, simply laugh at yourself as you would a child who doesn't know any better, and gently counteract the thought you just spoke with its positive opposite. example if you said "i cant do this!" after recognizing what you just cursed yourself with, say immediately behind it "of course you can silly, look at you doing it now (;"
(source: http://www.organicandhealthy.org/2017/03/the-invisible-thread-between-two-people.html)
DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
This particular agreement reminds us that the world is a mirror of itself. people are mirrors of themselves. We were not sent to this earth to please everyone. It is not your job to make people happy, only they can do that for themselves. When people are not at peace, they often try to blame it on others instead of going inward, and they might also try to project their feelings onto you. When someone curses you, do not take it personally, it is not your problem, it is not your job to absorb that curse and energy. Rather let it go and leave them to themselves to figure out what they need to. If we were to take everything personally that was said to us, we would be stressed out depressed and self harming people. On the other hand, when someone compliments you, do not take it personally, accept the compliment but do not let it go to your head, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. There are many reasons a person might call you beautiful, but their validation of your beauty is not needed by you, only your own validation is needed. Do not lean on others to fill you up and forget that you are truly the source of your own validation.
(source: http://bigthink.com/ideafeed/when-thinking-too-much-produces-negative-results)
DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
I hate to say it Darling, but you are not the center of the universe. so often we are so caught up in our thoughts , that we forget that essentially, we are are living in different worlds, due to the power of perception. The best thing that you can try to remember is that you are not me, and I am not you. With this realization, things will run a lot smoother. Everyone is different in every situation and circumstance possible , and it would be a ridiculous thing to do, to pretend like we are all the same and react the same. No matter how long you have known a person or how much time you have spent with them, you never truly know any ones thoughts or feelings but your own. Humans spend so much energy and thought, assuming things that they dreamt up in their own fantasy worlds of what if land. Instead of trying to come to conclusions of what other people really mean, just let it go. Don't be so hasty to act. Let go and let life take its course, and then when an action comes, react with grace that only peace, acknowledgment and acceptance can bring.
(source: http://blionline.org/2015/11/todays-golden-rule-were-all-doing-the-best-we-can/)
ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
It is time to get real with yourself, and calculate your effort and time spent bringing to fruition your desires and needs.
Nothing is going to be dropped in your lap, you have to go and get it, work at it to the best of your ability. There is no need for complaining about what you don't want, that is in fact a hindrance, instead use that same energy to do your best at what you want to accomplish. The universe will support you but only when it sees you doing your part. Things inevitably fail, usually at least once before they fly. As a child you spend many a time falling before you began to walk, but you did learn to walk, only because of trying again and again. Doing your best every time is the only way to get better. Doing your best is the only way that you can live without regret, even in the face of failure, Doing your best brings about peace of mind and spirit, knowing that you give things your all , makes it easier to see what is for you, and what is not. don't be ashamed to try, don't be ashamed to fail. only be ashamed, if you didn't give it your all. If you didn't give it your all, next time...do (:
I highly recommend this book and others by Don Ruiz, his books are truly and wholly an inspiring, thought provoking read.